Before we get into the 3 key traits that make you stand out as a high value woman, let me be clear about one thing:
We are ALL high value.
There is no WAY another woman is worth more than you.
It can feel that way sometimes, when you’re comparing yourself to others and trying to figure out why they have these amazing lives and amazing partners and amazing careers and amazing homes…
It can feel like they have an advantage you don’t.
But whatever advantages these women have, it’s all external.
As human beings, we are all worthy of love. We are all irreplaceable. We are all invaluable.
Perhaps, then, the women who show up in the world as “high value women” are just women who’ve realized their true worth on the inside.
It’s up to you to embody the high value you were born with, and these 3 traits will help you do it.
Spot a Man Worthy of You
Which kind of guy would you rather be with:
Someone who values external attributes like beauty, success, and popularity…
Or someone who values internal attributes like integrity, honesty, and kindness?
If you’re looking to attract a guy who just wants eye candy, then this is not for you.
Lasting relationships aren’t built on superficial attraction.
Lasting relationships are a merger of values, vision, and mutual support.
Which means if you want to catch the eye of a man who wants something real, something lasting, something true…
You don’t want to waste your time on “being attractive to men.”
You want to invest your time in becoming who you were always meant to be.
The Light in You
Good men do not fall in love with you because of how you look or how you flirt.
Those things may catch their eye, but what captures their heart is something else.
It’s the way you live your life.
When you live a life from the heart, in tune with your values, guided by a personal vision, with service and love…
Your life stands for itself.
You don’t have to try to “attract men.”
You can just be you and be incredibly compelling.
Research shows that the strongest relationships are ones in which both partners are committed to learning and growing, because those relationships are resilient. They can adapt and change.
So if that’s what you want…
A partner by your side who shares your values, who’s committed to being the best man he can be for you, who has what it takes to love you forever…
Then these 3 key traits will help you stand out as the woman he’s been looking for his entire life.
Do you have a vision for your life?
Have you thought about where you want to be in a year, or two years, or ten years?
What are you doing now to move closer to your goals?
Do you feel comfortable sharing that vision with people you trust?
When you find a man with a vision that’s compatible with yours, it’s magnetic. You can see a long-term future with him… and he can see one with you.
#2. Growth mindset
Love involves a lot of setbacks, a lot of rejection, and a LOT of heartbreak.
It turns out that the way you explain those setbacks to yourself says everything about how easily you’ll find success in love.
People who think they’re bad at love, or that they lack something they need to succeed with the opposite sex, have what’s known as a fixed mindset.
They think that some people are born lucky while others aren’t, and they’re not one of the lucky ones.
Other people see setbacks and rejection as part of the learning process.
Having your heart broken doesn’t mean you’ve failed. It means that you’re gaining the experience you need to understand what you want.
That growth mindset will get you far in love. It will help you persevere when things are hard.
And when you’re committed to growth, you’ll attract men committed to growing with you.
A lot of us come to adulthood with a lot of baggage.
Some of us make the decision to sort through all that mess.
We know that having a relationship won’t make us feel loved. The only thing that will make us feel loved is by having a loving relationship with ourselves.
If you’re waiting to finally be seen by someone who sees what’s special in you, then I encourage you to be that person for yourself. See what’s special in you.
Give yourself the love you’re looking for.
When you are fully loved up—because your heart is open—you attract men who can love you fully.
And a man who’s loving, who’s committed to growth, and who’s going the same direction in your life as you’re going, is a man whose value is a match for yours.