What Good Men Say About The Women They Can’t Bear To Leave

This is how it’s supposed to feel.

So why doesn’t it?

You’ve Been Told A Lot Of Things About Men (Most Of Which Is Wrong)

You’ve been told:

“He needs to keep chasing you.”
“He needs to feel like a man.”
“He needs you to keep it exciting.”
“He won’t commit unless you make him.”

Whether you’re in a relationship or not, those stories have shaped how you love. And they’re holding you back.

Because good men DO exist. They DO care about emotional connection. They DO want forever.

The problem isn’t him. Or you.

It’s that you’re both missing each other’s signals.

If Only You Could See Inside His Head…

You don’t know what he’s thinking when he goes quiet or says he’s fine.

You can’t always tell the difference between emotional guardedness and lack of interest.

You’ve never been shown what helps him feel safe enough to commit to you.

And he’s just as confused about reading you.

So how do you learn to read male signals you were never taught to recognize?

You listen.

Not to what men tell you (they lie to protect you), but what they tell each other.

What I Discovered Eavesdropping on Men’s Secret Conversations

Imagine eavesdropping on thousands of good men having brutally honest conversations about:

• what they desperately need from women
• what breaks them
• why they feel forced out of relationships
• why they won’t drop their mask even with the woman they love.

This is a side of men they hide from you.

Their fears. Their frustrations. Their hopes. Such as…

► What happened when they showed vulnerability to their girlfriends (Less than a third had a good experience. The rest reported reactions so bad they never opened up again.)

► The compliment they remembered for YEARS (One man still remembers what a random stranger said to him a decade ago. It changed his entire day—and he wishes his girlfriend knew why it mattered so much.)

► The brutally honest questions they ask themselves when they can’t commit (“Is it her or is it me?” Their self-diagnostic process will surprise you.)

These 4 Words Cracked Open Men’s Hidden World

"Less stress, more sanctuary."

When I first saw those four words in a man’s Reddit comment, I stopped scrolling.

He was describing what he wanted most from his relationship. Not fun. Not passion. Not even love exactly.

Just… less stress. More sanctuary.

As I kept researching, I saw the same sentiment again and again—sometimes in those exact words, sometimes phrased differently, but always the same core longing.

Good men today aren’t looking for the chase, obsession, or text games.

They’re looking for refuge.

A relationship where they can finally put down the weight they carry everywhere else. Where they don’t have to perform or prove or protect themselves. Where they can just… breathe.

This is the NEW vision of what good men want in 21st-century relationships—and most women have never heard it articulated this way.

Hi, I’m Amy Waterman

For 20 years, I’ve been listening to men talk when they think no women are listening.

I’ve spent years inside exclusively male spaces. I’ve seen the secret guides men use to attract women. I’ve met the coaches teaching guys how to be a man.

When AI became widely available as a research tool, I used it to expand the work I’d been doing. I ran analyses on hundreds of thousands of online conversations between men, then followed the threads back to read their actual words.

What I found was raw and heart-wrenching.

Men talking about why their marriages ended. Why they stopped opening up. What they treasured about women. What they were afraid of losing. What they desperately needed but couldn’t ask for.

Again and again, their stories pointed to the same missing piece: sanctuary.

My new book shows you exactly what sanctuary means to good men—and how to create it.

This Gave Me “X-Ray Vision” Into Men

For months after writing up this research, I felt like I was walking around with x-ray goggles.

On the surface, men looked calm, confident, and self-assured.

But underneath I could see a new layer I’d never noticed before: small “tells” that showed when they were nervous, when they were self-protective, when their confidence was an act.

I started recognizing the signals they were sending… and the signals they desperately needed to receive.

That’s when I realized: creating sanctuary isn’t complicated.

It comes down to four types of “Sanctuary Signals” good men respond to instinctively.

Give him the Sanctuary Effect, and he’ll find his forever home in you—and fight like crazy to keep it.

What Your New “X-Ray Vision” Will Show You

► Why his curt “I’m fine” is self-protective (When one man finally opened up at his girlfriend’s request, her reaction made him shut down forever. You’ll learn what preserves sanctuary—and what breaks it.)

► The questions that shatter his sense of safety (You think you’re asking for reassurance, but he hears something completely different—and it’s making him pull away.)

► Why “training” your man destroys trust (Rewarding him for good behavior backfires, because he reads it as you doing something else entirely.)

► The “grass is greener” principle (Men in 20+ year marriages revealed how they stayed committed even when they stopped “feeling it.” This insight could save your relationship.)

► Why men don’t break up on a whim (They go through a 4-stage process before ending it—and there are 3 stages where you could rebuild sanctuary if you knew what to look for.)

► Why it’s wrong to say men are commitment-phobic (They don’t fear commitment; they fear stress with no sanctuary. You’ll learn what tips the scales from “maybe” to “absolutely yes.”)

► Their simple 2-part formula for a great relationship (It’s so simple you’ll wonder how men figured this out before women, yet it explains everything.)

Inside Sanctuary Signals

Inside this 140-page illustrated PDF + EPUB ebook, you’ll learn:

☑️ What Men Won’t Tell You (But Wish You Knew): The 5 things good men desperately wish they could say out loud, but won’t because they’re convinced you can’t handle it. (One will probably make you angry. Do the “Gender Swap Exercise” and you’ll realize you actually agree.)

☑️ His Secret Struggles (How He Wants You to Support Him): The 5 invisible burdens weighing him down, and the surprisingly simple things you can do that mean more than you could possibly know. (Hint: One involves spoons.)

☑️ His Love Formula: 10 Love Lessons from Men: The 2-part love formula men in lasting relationships swear by. Plus: 10 hard-won lessons from men who still adore their wives and have zero intention of leaving.

☑️ Commitment Confessions: What Men REALLY Think About Commitment: His secret “commitment calculation” that determines whether you’re the one. What makes serial daters give up the chase overnight. What he’s doing to keep you (even though you’ll never notice). And how to tell if you’re wasting your time on a man who will never choose you.

☑️ Why Men End Relationships (And The ONE Thing That Makes Them Stay): The 4-stage breakup process (and the 3 stages where you can still save it). The 5 real reasons good men end relationships. And the surprisingly simple thing that makes men fight like crazy to keep you.

Plus 2 Incredibly Valuable Bonuses

BONUS MINICOURSE #1 (Value $19.99):
The Ultimate Guide to Male Communication

What do men wish you knew about communication? Find out why he deflects with jokes, goes silent when you need him most, and ignores requests you’ve made a hundred times. Get exactly what to say to handle him. This is communication from a male perspective—and you’ll never think about it the same way again.

BONUS MINICOURSE #2 (Value $19.99):
The Ultimate Guide to Falling in Love With A Friend

Here’s a shocker: did you know men prefer to fall in love with their female friends? 2 out of 3 couples actually started as friends (and there’s even a scientific name for it). Discover the exact signs he’s catching feelings for you (that you’ve probably been missing), how to confess your feelings, and how to transition without destroying what you have.

Don’t Have Time?

If you’re not much of a reader…

Or if you know you’re never going to get through a 140-page book and two 40-page minicourses…

Then I don’t want you to miss out!

I’ve sat down at the microphone and recorded audiobook versions of all the content… and I’m throwing them in for free.

In just 4 hours of listening, you can absorb everything Sanctuary Signals has to offer and start enjoying your new “x-ray vision” with men.

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60-Day “This Actually Helped” Guarantee

If you don’t see men in a whole new way after reading the first few chapters, email me for a full 100% refund.

No hoops. No questions. No stress.

If you don’t have at least one “OMG I didn’t realize good men felt that way” moment in the first 60 days, I don’t want your money!

Good Men Are Drowning…
And They’re Afraid to Tell You

There’s a reason you don’t know what men really think about relationships:

They’re afraid of your reaction.

They’ve tried to open up to women before. It hasn’t gone well. Their greatest fear?

That if you find out what’s really going on for them… you won’t feel attracted anymore.

But here’s what happens when ONE woman gets it right:

This is what’s possible when you create sanctuary.

Not someday. Not with a different man.

Right now. With what you’re about to learn.

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P.S. When a good man experiences sanctuary, he doesn’t just fall in love—he finds safety with her. And he makes her feel safe too. That’s the difference between a good man and everyone else. This book shows you how to recognize him (and create sanctuary together).

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