In the 20th Century:
You deserve your own happy-ever-after.
In the 21st Century:
You have free will to make choices.
Back in the early days of my career, I used to reassure people: [Read more…] about You’ll End Up Married, Won’t You?
Toxic relationships
Toxic relationships
Should You Keep Forgiving Him?
In the 20th Century:
Forgive & forget.
In the 21st Century:
Fix it.
Good people forgive and forget. [Read more…] about Should You Keep Forgiving Him?
Do Men Really Prefer Respect to Love?
In the 20th Century:
Men prefer respect to love.
In the 21st Century:
You can’t be loved by someone who doesn’t respect you.
It all started with a question: [Read more…] about Do Men Really Prefer Respect to Love?
Blaming Yourself for Bad Relationships is SO Last Century
In the 20th Century:
You’re in a bad relationship because you made a bad choice.
In the 21st Century:
You’re in a bad relationship because you’re working through your issues. [Read more…] about Blaming Yourself for Bad Relationships is SO Last Century
How to Cope With Feeling Unwanted in a Relationship
It was a nice young man at a conference—many, many years ago—who taught me the danger of feeling unappreciated.
When work decided to send me to this conference, I felt an unaccustomed thrill. I hadn’t done something on my own for so long. [Read more…] about How to Cope With Feeling Unwanted in a Relationship
The Bravery of Breaking Up
We don’t talk enough about how brave it is to break up.
As a woman? Whom everyone will judge?
It takes courage to say, “I am not okay with how I am being treated in this relationship.” [Read more…] about The Bravery of Breaking Up
When Is It Time to Walk Away?
If there’s one thing we women do amazingly well…
It’s making a bad situation work.
No matter what we’re given, we can find a way. We can do a lot with very little. We just adjust our expectations and feel grateful for what we have. [Read more…] about When Is It Time to Walk Away?
A Man’s Worst Nightmare
Warning:
What you’re about to read is not pleasant. Continue reading only if you feel emotionally prepared.
Women have always wondered where all the good men have gone. [Read more…] about A Man’s Worst Nightmare
Afraid of Getting Into Another Bad Relationship?
Love is supposed to be the easiest thing in the world.
Meet a man you like, fall in love together, live happily ever after. Just human nature, isn’t it?
<cue the hysterical laughter!!> [Read more…] about Afraid of Getting Into Another Bad Relationship?
He Doesn’t Trust Women
Your goal is to find a man you click with.
Someone whose company you enjoy. Someone on your wavelength. Someone who likes what you like.
But there’s one situation where it’s impossible to click: [Read more…] about He Doesn’t Trust Women
My Boyfriend Gets Angry When I’m Upset
It was one of those days.
I’d just finished replying to a comment from a woman on YouTube.
She’d tried to help her boyfriend with his quest to buy a car, and he got angry at her. [Read more…] about My Boyfriend Gets Angry When I’m Upset
The Story He’s Telling Himself About You
A while back, I shared with you a “magic phrase” that helps with tough conversations.
The phrase comes from the brilliant social scientist Brené Brown, and it goes like this:
“The story I’m telling myself is…” [Read more…] about The Story He’s Telling Himself About You
Why Men Behave Badly in Relationships
Men change.
The man you dated—that fun, generous, open-hearted guy who stole your heart—is gone.
In his place is a grumpy guy who’s selfish and short-tempered. [Read more…] about Why Men Behave Badly in Relationships
Why Doesn’t He Even TRY to Be a Good Boyfriend?
By now, you know that a man’s childhood affects his relationship with you.
By the time he could walk, he already had a sense of whether it was safe to get emotionally close to his caregivers.
Even as a baby, he’d already developed strategies [Read more…] about Why Doesn’t He Even TRY to Be a Good Boyfriend?
Is He Even Capable of Loving You?
By now, you know that a man’s early childhood shapes him in profound ways.
Not only does it set him up to find a specific type of woman attractive…
But it also shapes the issues he’ll struggle with for the rest of his life. [Read more…] about Is He Even Capable of Loving You?