There’s plenty of advice out there on how to drag a man across the Gap.
You have to inspire his devotion. You’ve got to enchant him.
You have to help him through his bonding stages. [Read more…] about Is He Chasing Thrills… Or Choosing You?
Your Guide to the Male Brain
Understanding Men
Watch Out For The “Gap” Between Fun and Forever
What is the Gap?
It’s the dark, yawning space between the rush of new romance and the reality of building a life together.
It’s the chasm between fun and forever. Between dopamine and devotion.
And if you can’t cross it, the relationship never makes it. [Read more…] about Watch Out For The “Gap” Between Fun and Forever
Does He Know You Better Than You Know Yourself?
When I first came on the scene 20 years ago, men were already teaching each other a clever way to attract women:
Just use psychology to tell her things about herself.
Surprise her with these pseudo “deep insights” that amaze her with their accuracy [Read more…] about Does He Know You Better Than You Know Yourself?
What if He’s Not Making A Move… On Purpose?
In my last post, I shared why I’m a fan of the Slow Burn.
There’s something delicious about drawing out the romantic tension over weeks and months. [Read more…] about What if He’s Not Making A Move… On Purpose?
Watch Out For Dangerous Love Advice
I’m not courting controversy, but I really believe this:
Much of the dating and relationship advice out there is actually dangerous.
That’s a strong word, but it’s the right one.
It’s designed to make you appeal to the type of men most likely to take advantage of you. [Read more…] about Watch Out For Dangerous Love Advice
Look For This Clue to How He Feels
Do you think it’s possible for a man to love you a lot and just never show it?
Do you think it’s possible for a man to be totally selfish and still love you?
Do you think it’s possible for a man to be incredibly hurtful and still love you? [Read more…] about Look For This Clue to How He Feels
His Love Capacity
I feel a bit cringe when I write anything about “How to Make a Man Love You More.”
Because there’s something important I’m leaving out.
You CAN’T make some men love you more. [Read more…] about His Love Capacity
Difficult Relationships With Difficult Men Part III
I wish someone had taught me what I’m teaching you now.
Twenty years ago, I didn’t know how to fix a relationship or how to end it. I’d let things get so bad he’d break up with me.🤦♀️
Bad boyfriends broke me, but they also taught me the need to grow a backbone. [Read more…] about Difficult Relationships With Difficult Men Part III
The REAL Reason Men & Women Are At War
In the past few years, I’ve noticed something unsettling.
As bad as the gender wars were when I started my career, they’ve somehow gotten worse.
Social media is a battlefield—men complaining about women, women complaining about men. [Read more…] about The REAL Reason Men & Women Are At War
Should You Date A Sigma Male?
Not every man aspires to be an alpha male.
Some men like to see themselves as a “sigma male.”
Whereas an alpha male sees himself as leader of the pack, sigma males are lone wolves. [Read more…] about Should You Date A Sigma Male?
Never Date An Alpha Male
A lot of men genuinely believe that women are only attracted to alpha males.
They believe—and this is going to gross you out—that women are “programmed” to constantly keep an eye out for higher status “males” [Read more…] about Never Date An Alpha Male
Surprising Reason Men Fall Out of Love
In the 20th Century:
Men fall out of love because they stop finding their partner attractive.
In the 21st Century:
Men fall out of love because they don’t want to be a disappointment. [Read more…] about Surprising Reason Men Fall Out of Love
The Experience He’s Seeking: Is It You?
In the 20th Century:
He wants a catch.
In the 21st Century:
He wants someone who makes him feel alive.
Yes, you could be slim and gorgeous and accomplished and fascinating… [Read more…] about The Experience He’s Seeking: Is It You?
Marry Him, Marry His Family
In the 20th Century:
You marry each other.
In the 21st Century:
You also marry each other’s parents, grandparents, and ancestors. [Read more…] about Marry Him, Marry His Family
From Falling in Love to Forever
In the 20th Century:
Falling in love is just the beginning.
In the 21st Century:
Falling in love is the whole point.
Every love story begins with falling in love. [Read more…] about From Falling in Love to Forever
