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Last summer I spent some months researching what men online were saying about love and relationships.
And the fact is…
A lot of men are opting out of the dating game because they just don’t think it’s worth the effort. [Read more…] about Women Are Done Dating. So Are Men. Now What?
There’s plenty of advice out there on how to drag a man across the Gap.
You have to inspire his devotion. You’ve got to enchant him.
You have to help him through his bonding stages. [Read more…] about Is He Chasing Thrills… Or Choosing You?
What is the Gap?
It’s the dark, yawning space between the rush of new romance and the reality of building a life together.
It’s the chasm between fun and forever. Between dopamine and devotion.
And if you can’t cross it, the relationship never makes it. [Read more…] about Watch Out For The “Gap” Between Fun and Forever
When I first came on the scene 20 years ago, men were already teaching each other a clever way to attract women:
Just use psychology to tell her things about herself.
Surprise her with these pseudo “deep insights” that amaze her with their accuracy [Read more…] about Does He Know You Better Than You Know Yourself?
In my last post, I shared why I’m a fan of the Slow Burn.
There’s something delicious about drawing out the romantic tension over weeks and months. [Read more…] about What if He’s Not Making A Move… On Purpose?
I’m not courting controversy, but I really believe this:
Much of the dating and relationship advice out there is actually dangerous.
That’s a strong word, but it’s the right one.
It’s designed to make you appeal to the type of men most likely to take advantage of you. [Read more…] about Watch Out For Dangerous Love Advice
Do you think it’s possible for a man to love you a lot and just never show it?
Do you think it’s possible for a man to be totally selfish and still love you?
Do you think it’s possible for a man to be incredibly hurtful and still love you? [Read more…] about Look For This Clue to How He Feels
I feel a bit cringe when I write anything about “How to Make a Man Love You More.”
Because there’s something important I’m leaving out.
You CAN’T make some men love you more. [Read more…] about His Love Capacity
I wish someone had taught me what I’m teaching you now.
Twenty years ago, I didn’t know how to fix a relationship or how to end it. I’d let things get so bad he’d break up with me.🤦♀️
Bad boyfriends broke me, but they also taught me the need to grow a backbone. [Read more…] about Difficult Relationships With Difficult Men Part III
In the past few years, I’ve noticed something unsettling.
As bad as the gender wars were when I started my career, they’ve somehow gotten worse.
Social media is a battlefield—men complaining about women, women complaining about men. [Read more…] about The REAL Reason Men & Women Are At War
Not every man aspires to be an alpha male.
Some men like to see themselves as a “sigma male.”
Whereas an alpha male sees himself as leader of the pack, sigma males are lone wolves. [Read more…] about Should You Date A Sigma Male?
A lot of men genuinely believe that women are only attracted to alpha males.
They believe—and this is going to gross you out—that women are “programmed” to constantly keep an eye out for higher status “males” [Read more…] about Never Date An Alpha Male
In the 20th Century:
You have an obligation to keep yourself attractive for him.
In the 21st Century:
You have an obligation to yourself to enjoy your body. [Read more…] about This Affects His Desire for You
In the 20th Century:
Men fall out of love because they stop finding their partner attractive.
In the 21st Century:
Men fall out of love because they don’t want to be a disappointment. [Read more…] about Surprising Reason Men Fall Out of Love
In the 20th Century:
He wants a catch.
In the 21st Century:
He wants someone who makes him feel alive.
Yes, you could be slim and gorgeous and accomplished and fascinating… [Read more…] about The Experience He’s Seeking: Is It You?
