In the 20th Century:
Men fall out of love because they stop finding their partner attractive.
In the 21st Century:
Men fall out of love because they don’t want to be a disappointment.
It’s not easy to keep the love alive in long-term relationships.
You annoy each other. You take each other for granted. You give up a lot.
At some point you wonder whether you made the right decision.
And that feeling of wondering whether you’d made the right decision?
That’s disappointment.
Your life with him isn’t what you thought it would be.
He doesn’t treat you like a queen.
His foibles and faults are no longer cute.
You just want him to man up and be the man you know he could be.
Of course you still love him. You’re committed to him. You want him to work on the relationship.
But what you don’t realize is that your disappointment seeps into his heart.
The worst thing a man can be is a disappointment to the woman he loves.
He’s been there before. He remembers letting his mother down as a kid.
He’ll do anything to avoid that feeling.
As far as he’s concerned, when he can tell you’re disappointed in him or in your life together, the relationship is basically over.
He’s not motivated to try harder. He withdraws. He starts seeing himself as a lone wolf.
Being single is better than continuing like this. If he finds someone new, he’ll get to be her hero again.
Questions to Consider
- Do you think your guy cares what you think of him?
- Do you think that the fear of disappointing you might make him defensive?
- Is it possible for him to be your hero again, after all this time and everything that has happened?
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