If I could wave a magic wand and make ONE CHANGE that would help you find love…
I’d transform all the jerks and players into good guys.
All those guys out there who are just after one thing…
All those guys who pretend to be gentlemen just to lure you in…
All those guys who don’t care if they break your heart…
Would vanish into thin air.
The dating scene would be dominated by good, kind, caring guys who want to find a woman they can love and treat right.
Well, I don’t have a magic wand, so I can’t make that happen….
But there’s something that works ALMOST as well as a magic wand.
You might know it as the Law of Attraction.
It’s the principle that what you believe creates your experiences.
When you believe that all men are jerks and players, you meet a lot of jerks and players.
But when you believe that there are good men out there, and that you are worthy of a good man, you attract the love you deserve.
Intuitive coach Mat Shaffer has been helping women flip their beliefs and manifest amazing love for years. He’s a master belief block-buster, shattering the beliefs that hold women back in love.
In this week’s YBTV interview, Mat shares the hidden beliefs that keep women stuck.
You’ll learn why it’s so hard to know what you believe, how those invisible beliefs create real results in your life, the secret of radical transformation, and why there’s no such thing as a bad date.
What You’ll Learn
You will subconsciously attract experiences and manufacture experiences for yourself that reinforce your beliefs. That’s why choosing your beliefs is the single most important thing you can do to create the life and relationship that you want.”
Mat Shaffer works with women from all over the world.
And it turns out, there isn’t a single country in the world where the men aren’t jerks.
His clients tell him that not only are most men jerks and players…
But if they happen to miraculously meet a good man, it never lasts.
For Mat, that’s head-scratching.
How can anyone possibly know how ALL men are, based on their own limited experience?
“Anytime we create a general assumption about all of anything, we have created a false belief,” he says. “Because there are no universals in life, especially when it comes to people.”
The Wall of Belief
There’s a good reason why women prefer to believe that all men are jerks and players.
They’re trying to protect themselves.
If a man turns out to be a jerk, well, you already knew he’d be. So it doesn’t hurt as much.
And honestly, if all men are jerks and players, there’s no point in dating. You’ll just get hurt again. So you can stop trying.
You can probably see the problem here…
“When we protect ourselves like that, when we cut ourselves off from human connection… we end up alone,” Mat says.
Negative beliefs about men put up a wall between you and love.
It’s time to break through.
Break the Beliefs Holding You Back
“Here’s the thing when it comes to your beliefs,” Mat says. “You have two options. You can either:
- Allow your beliefs to be created by experiences that you’ve had—and I guarantee you, when you do that, your mind and your ego are going to create your beliefs based around the hurtful experiences that you have—or,
- You can choose your beliefs based upon the life that you want to have.”
In other words, your beliefs can be reactive, or they can be proactive.
Why does it matter how your beliefs came to be?
If you believe that you’re powerless over your beliefs because they’re based on experience, then there’s not much you can do to dissolve your blocks in love.
But if you believe that you have power over your beliefs…
And you can believe something new even if you don’t have evidence for it…
Then you can make radical shifts in your life.
“I’m a firm believer that what we spend our time and our energy pouring into, we’re going to create,” Mat says. “So what are you feeding? What are you nourishing? What’s the story you’re telling yourself?”
There’s No Such Thing as a Bad Date
“When you make that conscious choice to choose beliefs that are in alignment with the sort of life and relationship you want to have,” Mat explains, your experience of dating will change.
You choose to believe that there are men out there who want a meaningful, soulful connection. You choose to believe that you are worthy of a loving relationship.
Those beliefs help you release men who aren’t a good fit and find lessons in even the darkest experiences.
When you have a growth mindset, you realize that “there’s no such thing as a bad date.”
Every type of date can teach you something about yourself and give you an opportunity to grow and practice what it means to be in your feminine and be connected with men.”
Even if a man isn’t the one, meeting him did not waste your time. Your beliefs will help you enjoy the process and release the outcome.
How to Change Your Beliefs
You know that you want to change.
But how can you break past your old beliefs and replace them with new ones?
It all starts with identifying the beliefs you want to release.
“Your beliefs are like an invisible box,” Mat explains. “They’re all around you all the time. They’re constantly influencing your behavior, and they are creating the parameters of your reality.”
Your beliefs are such a part of you that they’re hard to see.
That’s why it helps to have an expert guide…
Mat leaves us with this message:
Even if you can’t see or feel that right now, you are worthy of a deep, profound, meaningful love. And it is waiting for you the instant that you decide to believe that it’s possible.”
Jump to Topics of Interest
1:54 Why are men such jerks?
5:28 The dating game
7:11 Dating as a process
7:44 Choosing your beliefs
10:18 Law of Attraction
11:00 How do you see yourself?
12:18 How to change a belief
15:22 Free offer: week-long coaching with Mat
20:13 Transformation happens in an instant
Mat is an experienced intuitive coach for women looking to foster deep connection and personal empowerment so they can experience freedom, joy and fulfilling relationships in all areas of their lives. He draws on years of personal development and emotional intelligence training to provide world class coaching to women hungry to reach the next level in any or all areas of their lives. Join Mat to break through the beliefs holding you back from love.