Dating feels super-stressful, but it doesn’t have to be.
If you’ve wasted years of your life trying to master what men want—how to flirt, what questions to ask, what his body language is saying…
Then you’re going to love the N-A-K-E-D approach to dating.
Naked Love Coach Nadika Viswakula wants you to move past the idea of working to get the guy you want…
And step into the possibility of attracting the amazing love you deserve.
She doesn’t believe there’s a cookie cutter mold for attraction. Our journey to love is as unique as we are. But it always begins in the same place:
In this week’s YBTV interview, Nadika shares her “naked” philosophy. You’ll learn why we tend to attract partners just like our ex. You’ll also learn why baggage isn’t such a bad thing after all; it’s how you carry it that matters.
Nadika also shares a powerful exercise to help you elevate your frequency and attract a partner who makes you feel the way you love to feel.
What You’ll Learn
Nadika Viswakula wants you to get naked.
Emotionally, that is!
“For the purpose of my business and my branding and what I do with clients,” she explains, “I use the word naked to get them to peel back their layers and their masks, all the things that we’ve been told and taught that we are.”
Getting naked emotionally can feel even riskier than stripping down to your skivvies, but it’s worth it.
“What I help people do is peel back their layers, understand where their programming has come from, and really learn to love and connect to who they truly are beneath all of the masks,” Nadika says.
Naked also stands for Nadika’s philosophy.
N – No more masks.
A – Always choose to live from love and let go of fear. “If I have love and compassion for someone else, I can have love and compassion for myself.”
K – Knowing. Learn to trust your inner guide and not your conflicting thoughts.
E – Elevate your consciousness. Tap into your inner guides and trust that you are being guided on this journey called life.
D – Deepen your understanding of who you are and what your unique purpose is here on earth.
When you get out of your head and into your heart, you can bridge the gap from “getting what you want” to “attracting what you deserve.” And that’s an art Nadika is uniquely positioned to teach.
Heal One Block, Heal Them All
“I help people through their own everyday life experiences,” Nadika says.
“Wherever you’re hitting a challenge or you’re hitting a block, we work through it. It doesn’t have to be around romance. It could be around finances; it could be around your own inner joy. It could be around achieving a goal. If there’s a block there, it’s all linked.”
You might not immediately think that your struggles in dating have anything to do with what’s going on at work or your vague dissatisfaction with life.
But “everything’s linked to everything else within our life,” Nadika says.
Once you dig deeper into that block and understand the core beliefs driving it, you can start to free yourself from what’s holding you back.
Same Feelings, Different Guy
Nadika has experienced this in her own life.
Back when she was struggling in her own love life, she kept finding herself feeling abandoned, alone, and taken advantage of. She worked with coaches and healers to figure out what was wrong.
What she discovered was that SHE was the common denominator attracting those common experiences.
She explains, “The person doesn’t need to be the same. It’s that the experiences are bringing up the same emotions for me. And those emotions are not brand-new; I had them before.”
Once she realized that she had a core belief that she was abandonable, and that this belief was attracting aloof guys who couldn’t show up for her with consistency and integrity, she was able to break the pattern.
“We’re only ever attracting our mirror image,” she says.
Make Friends with Your Baggage
As hard as it can feel to admit there’s a part of you that’s subconsciously seeking to repeat hurtful patterns, Nadika doesn’t see anything shameful or embarrassing about acknowledging what’s going on.
“We ALL have baggage,” she says.
“What I can help people do is put the baggage on the table, open it up, lay it out, unpack everything, understand what’s there, and get the tools you need to understand what’s there and how it got there.
“Then when you pack your baggage back up—because it’s probably not going to go away in the snap of a finger—you have the tools that you need. You can walk into a relationship and go, ‘Hey, listen, this is my baggage. I’m willing to take ownership for it. There’s going to be stuff that comes up that’s going to poke at these different beliefs that I have, but I have the tools, and if you can be patient with me, I’m willing to work through them.'”
She adds, “You really grow in a partnership that way.”
It’s so unfair that we tend to attract partners who rub the wrong way against our old wounds. But that’s what’s supposed to happen, explains Nadika.
“You’re going to attract someone energetically that is aligned with your core belief system,” she says.
“Which means they will know how to poke at those belief systems that you have, but not in a negative way. It’s so that we can evolve and heal it.”
Make Time to Play
One way to accelerate the process of attracting the love you deserve is to tap into your own inner joy.
“We put so much pressure on ourselves, and dating can be such a fun experience,” Nadika says.
Instead of assessing a date to determine whether they’re your future spouse, or putting pressure on yourself to perform, think to yourself:
“How about if I just go out and enjoy this person’s company for whatever it is that they have to offer?”
Nadika urges her clients to write down a list of the positive ways the men in your life make you feel. As you start to become aware of what naturally enhances your joy, you begin to appreciate the gifts you already receive from men. Your focus shifts from the qualities you thought you wanted in a partner to the feelings you want to have.
“It’s not what I want someone to do,” Nadika explains. “It’s how I want someone to make me feel.”
She urges us to bring our playful side to our love life. “Have fun. Tap into that childlike side of yourself. Be carefree.”
As you get in touch with what elevates your joy, you begin attracting partners who make you feel the way you love to feel.
Want to learn more? Find out how you can work with Nadika!
Jump to Topics of Interest
1:54 What does “being naked” mean?
5:10 There’s no cookie cutter mold for attraction
7:21 Nadika’s journey to self-awareness
8:43 Healing the pattern of abandonment
9:57 Releasing baggage
12:06 Attracting your energetic match
13:45 Finding the joy in everything
15:45 Bringing playfulness to a date
16:31 Exercise to enhance joy
Nadika prides herself in being an intuitive and a bit of a modern-day hippie. She has studied an array of alternative types of healing, that, she swears, has transformed her life and the lives of the people she has had the honor of working with. She has been an entrepreneur from a young age, but there was always a piece missing from the puzzle. As Nadika explored, sought, and delved deeper within herself, she found the true essence of her being … which ultimately enhanced her levels of love, connection and joy. Find out how you can work with Nadika.