There’s plenty of advice out there on how to drag a man across the Gap.
You have to inspire his devotion. You’ve got to enchant him.
You have to help him through his bonding stages. [Read more…] about Is He Chasing Thrills… Or Choosing You?
How to Make It Last
Commitment
Watch Out For The “Gap” Between Fun and Forever
What is the Gap?
It’s the dark, yawning space between the rush of new romance and the reality of building a life together.
It’s the chasm between fun and forever. Between dopamine and devotion.
And if you can’t cross it, the relationship never makes it. [Read more…] about Watch Out For The “Gap” Between Fun and Forever
Can You Love Each Other & Still Hate Each Other Sometimes?
It’s scary to consider the idea that love may not be the main emotion at play in your relationship.
You need to believe your partner loves you. Questioning that—even for a moment—can feel catastrophic. [Read more…] about Can You Love Each Other & Still Hate Each Other Sometimes?
From Falling in Love to Forever
In the 20th Century:
Falling in love is just the beginning.
In the 21st Century:
Falling in love is the whole point.
Every love story begins with falling in love. [Read more…] about From Falling in Love to Forever
Choose Him, Choose Your Tomorrows
In the 20th Century:
You’re choosing a person.
In the 21st Century:
You’re choosing a life.
The stories of old told us this: [Read more…] about Choose Him, Choose Your Tomorrows
The Best Friend Test
In the 20th Century:
You have a spouse and a best friend.
In the 21st Century:
Your spouse is your best friend.
My grandmother never would have called her husband her best friend. [Read more…] about The Best Friend Test
The #1 Question to Ask in An On-Off Relationship
If there’s one thing that’s worse than a relationship that’s over for good, it’s a relationship that keeps hanging on by a string.
You know it isn’t working. You’re not happy. But you just can’t cut the cord.
Every time you think it’s over, he comes back. [Read more…] about The #1 Question to Ask in An On-Off Relationship
Should You Keep Waiting for Him?
I’ve been thinking a lot about a friend of mine recently.
I wrote about her in The Pleasure Principle. I love to her to bits. She is such a great friend, she has such a big heart, and she is the perfect person to have fun with.
And yet she’s still single [Read more…] about Should You Keep Waiting for Him?
This Gets Him Thinking About A Future With You
What do you think the very best gift you could give a guy is?
Telling him that you want a future with him?
Or telling him that you believe in the future he wants for himself? [Read more…] about This Gets Him Thinking About A Future With You
3 Surprising Reasons Why He Won’t Commit
When you have something good going with a guy, it’s inconceivable to imagine that he doesn’t feel it, too.
You know he cares about you. You know he enjoys being with you. You’re pretty sure that this is one of the best relationships he’s ever had. [Read more…] about 3 Surprising Reasons Why He Won’t Commit
3 Signs He’s Not Ready for a Relationship
Sometimes loving a man is like pouring all your money into a bag with a hole in the bottom.
You’re giving him your treasure, and he’s strewing it all over the sidewalk.
This is why I believe you should take a hard look at a guy BEFORE [Read more…] about 3 Signs He’s Not Ready for a Relationship
Dating Advice on Starting a New Relationship
You’ve met someone!
I bet he’s gorgeous and amazing and treats you like a queen.
Now you’re wondering how to keep this new relationship in tip-top shape, so you don’t sabotage this great thing you’ve got going! [Read more…] about Dating Advice on Starting a New Relationship
5 Keys That Make a Man Commit to You
One of the toughest stories I hear—and I hear it over and over again—is the story of a woman who has given her love to a man in the most beautiful, generous way possible…
Only for him to back away and tell her he doesn’t want something serious. [Read more…] about 5 Keys That Make a Man Commit to You
5 Signs He is NOT Your Soulmate
Back in my twenties, I was with a guy who wanted to get married, and I didn’t know what to do.
So I went around asking people [Read more…] about 5 Signs He is NOT Your Soulmate
Why Did He Leave Me?
He was SO into you…
And then he wasn’t.
We’ve all rented a room or two at the “Heartbreak Hotel.” Sometimes we didn’t even see the breakup coming (although an outsider would have seen it approaching like a raging bull [Read more…] about Why Did He Leave Me?
