I hate to break the news…
But it’s breakup season.
The time of year when relationships are put to the test.
December 11th is the day of the year that couples are most likely to break up.
Two weeks before Christmas, breakups spike. The only comparable time in mid-March, when people do some spring-cleaning of their love lives.
It’s a cruel time of year to dump someone. Your family may be looking forward to meeting your new guy. You may be looking forward to FINALLY having someone to share the holiday festivities with.
But the holidays bring a lot of pressure. If you’re not really in love with the person you’re with, all that holiday romance can underscore what’s missing. Families are notoriously blunt about asking when they’re going to see a ring on your finger.
And as the year comes to an end, you’re both going to be thinking about what you want for the future… and this relationship might not be in it.
So how can you get through this tricky time without combusting?
I’ve got one quick tip that can help.
No matter what happens this holiday season, remember this:
Don’t take ANY of it personally.
He can’t make it to your work Christmas do? Don’t take it personally.
He prefers to spend Christmas day with his family instead of yours? Don’t take it personally.
He gives you a gift card instead of something sparkly? Don’t take it personally.
The holidays are ultimately about YOU connecting with what YOU love.
It’s a time to meet up with friends, spend time with family, and feel the love all around.
Whatever your guy does or doesn’t do is just a drop in the ocean of good feelings this holiday. This relationship with him is important to you, but it’s certainly not the only relationship in your life. Let him off the hook by making time for all the other people you love. Let him decide how much of your holiday cheer he wants to share.
Make no mistake: it’s hard to dial back your expectations and let your guy set the pace for how involved he wants to be this holiday season. It definitely FEELS personal!
But giving him space now could just give your guy the breather he needs to realize how lost he feels when he’s not with you.
Ultimately, if a guy breaks it off on December 11th, it’ll hurt … but you’ve got a lot of friends and family to carry you through the next two weeks. Then get yourself an online dating profile ASAP, because January 6th is the biggest day of the year for online dating, and your Mr. Right may be a click away!