In the 20th Century:
Change him.
In the 21st Century:
Change yourself.
When you’re frustrated with your love life – you want him to treat you better, you don’t understand why he pulled away, you just want the love you were promised…
All you want is a little advice.
What should you do?
What should you say to him?
How can you make him love you the way you need him to?
When I began my career nearly 20 years ago, this was dating advice.
It was entirely about managing men.
It was about telling women to do certain things in order to make men feel a certain way.
That advice is still out there.
Women still use it. (Men still resist it, because they hate feeling managed.)
But there’s a new kind of advice in town…
Advice that helps women manage themselves.
When you’re frustrated with your love life, that frustration is telling you something.
It’s a message from your psyche.
It’s telling you to pay attention: there’s a lesson here.
If you’re always frustrated like this, maybe it’s because you keep picking the same type of partner.
Maybe it’s because you’ve trained yourself not to be honest with him.
Maybe it’s because you don’t have boundaries or are afraid to set them.
You could try “quick fix” dating tips…
But the benefit will be short-lived, because there isn’t a tip or trick in the world that will solve the real issue:
How you show up in love.
Questions to Consider
- Do I believe I’m stuck with the way I am, or do I believe I can change at any age?
- How would I like to show up differently in love?
- Do I want to change because I want to be better with men, or do I want to change because I want to learn and grow and be happy?
Let us know what you think!