If you are a woman, then there’s a very good chance that you wouldn’t even notice it if a man were interested in you.
Which is crazy, because we women are supposed to be super-communicators and the best at reading body language!
But no, the science is clear.
Women are more likely to perceive a man as being friendly when he’s actually sexually interested in her…
And men are more likely to perceive a woman as being sexually interested in him when she’s actually just being friendly.
So that friendly guy who’s always really nice to you?
Don’t be so quick to dismiss him as “just a friend.”
Watch for these 3 signs he’s feeling something more.
Why We’re Bad at Reading Men
Dr. Jeffrey Hall of the University of Kansas tried to find out how good we are at figuring out that someone is flirting with us.
He found that that we’re pretty good at knowing when someone isn’t flirting. We get that right 80% of the time.
But the men in his study figured out that they were being flirted with just 36% of the time.
Women were a lot worse. They could spot a flirt only 18% of the time.
Why were the women so much worse?
Well, Dr. Hall thinks it’s because women are actually better at communicating their intentions to men. We flirt in a way that’s a lot clearer and more direct.
Men aren’t great at flirting, so we find it a lot harder to read them.
And maybe that’s a good thing, because women tend to be attracted to men they can’t read. If you’re not sure he’s interested, your interest level is going to go right up.
So what can we do? How can we figure out if he’s flirting?
#1 Sign He’s Attracted
There’s actually a simple trick to find out if he’s secretly attracted to you.
It’s hard for you to tell if a man is flirting with you, but it’s not as hard for your friends.
They’re objective observers. They see things that you don’t.
So the #1 sign that a man is secretly attracted to you is that your friends tell you he’s flirting with you.
Even if you can’t see it, trust them. They’re better at this than you are.
#2 Sign He’s Attracted
The second sign a man is secretly attracted to you is his body language.
If you’re half-in, half-out of a conversation, you’re going to turn your body slightly away from the person you’re talking with. It’s a sign you might leave.
Now, if you’re talking to a guy and you’re just feeling each other out to see if there’s chemistry, I recommend turning your body slightly away from him. That way he knows you might leave at any time. He’s going to have to do the work if he wants to keep talking to you.
But if a man really likes you, and he wants to keep talking to you, he can’t help himself. He’s going to face you. And he’ll probably lean in. He’ll probably tilt his head as he’s listening to you. He might even invade your space by leaning his arm over your chair or touching your hand.
#3 Sign He’s Attracted
The last thing you want to pay attention to is where he’s looking.
A man who’s feeling an emotional connection to you tends to look at your face, while a man in lust tends to glance at your body.
And a man who’s not interested will glance at you occasionally but spend a lot of time looking elsewhere.
When you like someone, you enjoy looking them in the eye. You can read what’s going through their mind better. It’s pleasurable to have that visual connection.
But if you’re interested in getting it on with someone, then you’re going to sneak quick glances to check out their assets, so you can fantasize about what it might be like if you get together.
So there you have it:
You’re going to miss the signs that a guy is flirting with you most of the time, so rely on your friends. Ask them what they think.
And pay close attention to how he positions his body next to yours. If he’s facing you, looking at you, and closing that space between you, then he’s very definitely interested.
Flirting should be fun. It shouldn’t be stressful, and it shouldn’t feel like work.
But if flirting feels like a grind to you, then I strongly recommend picking up a copy of my free report on The 3 A’s of Effortless Attraction, where you’ll learn how to spark a man’s interest in a way that’s classy and completely natural.
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