Here’s a bit of research that just came out:
When we’re under stress or feeling vulnerable, we’re more likely to choose dominant, overconfident partners.
And guess what kind of men tend to be dominant and overconfident?
Yep. Narcissists.
Men for whom their ego comes first.
Men who see women as something to possess.
Men who avoid responsibility and escape consequences.
So how do you know whether the man you’ve picked is a narcissist or just super confident? Let’s find out!
When you fall for a guy who has to be “The Man” of the relationship, don’t be surprised if he turns out to have narcissistic tendencies. The two go hand in hand.
Sadly, despite the marketing, dominance doesn’t make him a “REAL man.”
The toddler is the one who needs to be in charge.
You want to look for an adult man.
Growing up teaches him the opposite of dominance. It teaches him service, humility, leadership, and responsibility.
He develops character and integrity. He thinks long-term and can curb his impulsive urges. He has empathy for others and acts thoughtfully.
A grown man looks like the most ordinary thing of all:
A competent, responsible, flexible adult.
So if life is hard and you’re dreaming of a strong man to sweep you up and take care of you, you need to be extra wary. You’re vulnerable to a dominant partner. That’s a mistake you can’t afford to make.
Instead, look for the man who isn’t going to save you.
The man who takes it slow and keeps checking in with you.
The man who is careful with his promises, because he knows actions can have unexpected consequences.
You know how to find these men, right?
Yep, by practicing The Pleasure Principle.
Let us know what you think!