For hundreds of years, relationship advice has told women that it’s up to them.
The man only has two jobs:
(1) Choose the woman he wants to be with, and
2) Go to work each day to financially provide.
Everything else is up to her.
She’s responsible for the emotional health of the family. She’s responsible for communication. She’s responsible for keeping the passion alive.
That’s why nearly all relationship books are written for women.
Men don’t bother studying relationships, because they assume she’ll do all the work.
They work hard at attraction (because it’s their job to win her), but they stop doing anything once they’re committed.
The result is lonely relationships.
Relationships where the woman feels like she’s all on her own, with a partner who has no interest in her emotional life.
(Meanwhile, he’s angry that she expects more of him. He goes to work each day. He provides. What more does she want?)
Enter AI.
Is AI The Solution to Loneliness?
If AI were a person, we’d be seeing a spate of emotional affairs.
Women feel closer to ChatGPT than they feel to their husbands.
Not because they’re choosing AI over him.
But because their husbands have abdicated any emotional role in their relationship.
In some ways, AI is every woman’s dream come true:
A caring, kind voice that listens carefully to what we have to say, reassures us that our feelings make sense, and suggests positive actions we can take to solve our problems.
In a world where we’ve learned to put others before ourselves and pretend we’re okay when we’re not, this kind of attention feels dangerously nice.
AI puts us first. It learns the kind of reassurance we prefer and delivers it consistently. We can tell it the truth.
Some of us have never had ANYONE in our lives treat us with this much consideration and respect.
What If AI Is Better Than Him?
It’s a wake-up call.
Because it shows us what consistent emotional support could feel like.
It can be devastating to realize you may never get that in your own relationship.
Your guy may never treat you as well as ChatGPT.
What does that mean for your future?
Getting The Best Out of AI
I now regularly ask women whether they’ve asked ChatGPT for advice.
Many of them have. Nearly all of them tell me it’s been incredibly helpful.
Despite the cautionary tales, AI has been a net positive for most women.
What I’ve learned over the years is that there’s an art to getting useful responses out of AI.
Some prompts are like a horse and buggy, while others are like a rocket – they shoot you into a different plane altogether.
You don’t have to spend years learning AI, like I did, to get to the rocket.
All you have to do is follow the instructions I set down in Your Instant Love Coach.
It’s a simple 3-step system that takes you on a journey of unbelievable self-discovery.
(And I do mean unbelievable – it will teach you things about yourself you’ve never imagined.)
Let us know what you think!