What Do Men Want in Bed? The Short Answer

What do men want in bed?

Easy. Three simple things.

#1. Your enthusiasm

You’ve got to want to be there. You’ve got to want to be with him. You’ve got to want to be doing the thing you’re doing.

If not…

If you’re doing this thing for him … if you’re not all that into it… if you’re worried he’ll never see you again if you turn him down…

Then say no. Just say no.

Sex should be an overwhelmingly enthusiastic yes. He wants to be wanted. He wants to be your sex object, too.^[1]

We women often think that a man would rather have bad sex than no sex. But a good man—MOST men—would rather go the extra mile to make sure you really want to be with him rather than end up in a bed with a woman who doesn’t really want to be there.

#2. Your direction

It’s tough for men to guess what pleases you in bed. Every woman is different. Every woman wants something a little different at different times.

You’ve got to tell him. You’ve got show him. You’ve got to know what you want and let him know. You’ve got to be comfortable with asking for nonsexual turn-ons like compliments or cuddles or candlelight, too.

The better you are at guiding him, the more you’ll fulfill his ultimate fantasy in bed, which is to master…

#3. Your pleasure

This really is the be-all and end-all of sex for men. They know they’ll get off. What they want to do is get YOU off. That’s what makes them feel like a man. That’s what makes them feel 10 foot tall and a hero in their life.

Imagine how it must feel for a guy to be with a woman who’s pretending to love everything he does to her … only to find out she’s faking it because she’s worried about hurting his ego?

If it’s not all that good for you, DO something about it. Find out what you need. Hand him a copy of She Comes First by Ian Kerner and get yourself a copy of Becoming Cliterate by Dr. Laurie Mintz.

Men want to be wanted. They want to be shown what you want. They want you to have a great time. THAT is the simple truth about what men want in bed.

[1] https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/articles/201307/sex-desire-doing