How Can I Make Him Love Me? The Short Answer

How can I make him love me?

The short answer is to treat yourself the way you wish he’d treat you.

If that seems backwards to you, let me explain.

One of the reasons relationships matter so much to us is because we want someone to treat us like we’re special. We matter. We’re first and foremost in their life.

I don’t have to tell you how amazing that feels.

When a man won’t give you that, it hurts. It feels like you’re not special to him. You don’t matter.

So you decide it’s your job to convince him to love you. If only you show him the life he could have with you by his side, he’ll be convinced. He’ll love you back. And you’ll finally get that feeling you’ve been craving.

It doesn’t work that way.

You know this. Has a man ever managed to convince you to fall in love with him by showing you how good you’ll have it with him? Of course not. Love doesn’t respond to reason. Love is a seed that blooms when nurtured with affection and connection.

So nurture the seeds of love with your guy by showing him affection and strengthening your connection.

While you’re waiting to see if love blooms, give yourself everything you want from him. Shower yourself with an enormous amount of attention and affection. Buy yourself something nice. Celebrate yourself with a treat. Don’t wait for him to give you the love you crave. He’s just a man. But you’re the one you’ll be with for a lifetime.

You may just find that the feeling you’ve been longing for—the one you thought you could only get from him—is starting to bloom inside you.

You teach men how to treat you. When you love yourself with a warm, generous and forgiving heart…

You teach him the way to love you.