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When I first came on the scene 20 years ago, men were already teaching each other a clever way to attract women:
Just use psychology to tell her things about herself.
Surprise her with these pseudo “deep insights” that amaze her with their accuracy, and she’ll feel an incredible connection to this guy who seems to see right into her soul. [Read more…] about Does He Know You Better Than You Know Yourself?
I’m not courting controversy, but I really believe this:
Much of the dating and relationship advice out there is actually dangerous.
That’s a strong word, but it’s the right one.
It’s designed to make you appeal to the type of men most likely to take advantage of you. [Read more…] about Watch Out For Dangerous Love Advice
I wish someone had taught me what I’m teaching you now.
Twenty years ago, I didn’t know how to fix a relationship or how to end it. I’d let things get so bad he’d break up with me.🤦♀️
Bad boyfriends broke me, but they also taught me the need to grow a backbone. [Read more…] about Difficult Relationships With Difficult Men Part III
When you’re in a difficult relationship, you just want him to change.
But he’s so stubborn. He refuses to change his hurtful behaviors or get any help.
And why should he? [Read more…] about Difficult Relationship With Difficult Men Part II
What do you do when all that great relationship advice doesn’t work with your particular partner?
He mocks you when you express your feelings. He refuses to try anything new. He maintains that you’re the problem, not him. [Read more…] about Difficult Relationships With Difficult Men: Part I
In the past few years, I’ve noticed something unsettling.
As bad as the gender wars were when I started my career, they’ve somehow gotten worse.
Social media is a battlefield—men complaining about women, women complaining about men. [Read more…] about The REAL Reason Men & Women Are At War
Not every man aspires to be an alpha male.
Some men like to see themselves as a “sigma male.”
Whereas an alpha male sees himself as leader of the pack, sigma males are lone wolves. [Read more…] about Should You Date A Sigma Male?
A lot of men genuinely believe that women are only attracted to alpha males.
They believe—and this is going to gross you out—that women are “programmed” to constantly keep an eye out for higher status “males” [Read more…] about Never Date An Alpha Male
In the 20th Century:
You deserve your own happy-ever-after.
In the 21st Century:
You have free will to make choices.
Back in the early days of my career, I used to reassure people: [Read more…] about You’ll End Up Married, Won’t You?
In the 20th Century:
Forgive & forget.
In the 21st Century:
Fix it.
Good people forgive and forget. [Read more…] about Should You Keep Forgiving Him?
In the 20th Century:
Men prefer respect to love.
In the 21st Century:
You can’t be loved by someone who doesn’t respect you.
It all started with a question: [Read more…] about Do Men Really Prefer Respect to Love?
In the 20th Century:
You’re in a bad relationship because you made a bad choice.
In the 21st Century:
You’re in a bad relationship because you’re working through your issues. [Read more…] about Blaming Yourself for Bad Relationships is SO Last Century
It was a nice young man at a conference—many, many years ago—who taught me the danger of feeling unappreciated.
When work decided to send me to this conference, I felt an unaccustomed thrill. I hadn’t done something on my own for so long. [Read more…] about How to Cope With Feeling Unwanted in a Relationship
We don’t talk enough about how brave it is to break up.
As a woman? Whom everyone will judge?
It takes courage to say, “I am not okay with how I am being treated in this relationship.” [Read more…] about The Bravery of Breaking Up
If there’s one thing we women do amazingly well…
It’s making a bad situation work.
No matter what we’re given, we can find a way. We can do a lot with very little. We just adjust our expectations and feel grateful for what we have. [Read more…] about When Is It Time to Walk Away?
