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Online Dating

Dating Red Flags & Green Lights with Coach Eric

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Are you confident you could spot the difference between a man who’s trying to play you… and a man who’s serious about finding a relationship?

If you’ve spent any time on dating apps, you know that it isn’t easy! Too many men say what they think you want to hear. [Read more…] about Dating Red Flags & Green Lights with Coach Eric

The Body Test

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Tough Truth:
Hiding how you look won’t make him fall in love with you.
Lead with your beautiful body—let it filter out the wrong men.

Women who aren’t body confident often make one terrible mistake: [Read more…] about The Body Test

Is He Great at Texting? Not So Fast…

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You’ve met a great guy online.

You’re texting back and forth, and you find yourself in stitches.

This guy is so funny! He always has a clever comeback.

You can’t wait to meet him, but [Read more…] about Is He Great at Texting? Not So Fast…

3 Signs He’s Not Worth Another Date

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As much as online dating is a ton of work without much reward, it does teach you a lot about human nature.

The way men present themselves when you meet them for the first time is INCREDIBLY revealing. [Read more…] about 3 Signs He’s Not Worth Another Date

2 Utterly GENIUS Online Dating Hacks – Dr. Duana Welch

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It can feel utterly TERRIFYING to face being single again.

Maybe you fell into your last relationship the old-fashioned way, by meeting him at work or at school or through people you both knew.

Now, everybody pulls out their phone and swipes to find a date… [Read more…] about 2 Utterly GENIUS Online Dating Hacks – Dr. Duana Welch

Why Online Dating Is So Much Like High School

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I’ll never forget the last time I tried online dating.

I’d gotten out of a committed relationship, and I was excited to test the waters again.

Because once upon a time, I knew online dating inside and out. [Read more…] about Why Online Dating Is So Much Like High School

3 Types of Men & How to Attract Them

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Back in my late twenties, I was a guinea pig for love.

I was living in a city that made it easy to date. I worked in the city center, where I could pop out to a coffee date on my lunch break. I rewrote my online dating profile every three months. [Read more…] about 3 Types of Men & How to Attract Them

3 Ways Online Dating Sites Are Lying to You

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It sounds too good to be true.

Set up your profile on an online dating site for FREE…

And the science-based algorithm will sort through all the single guys in your area for you and report back with your best matches. [Read more…] about 3 Ways Online Dating Sites Are Lying to You

3 Online Dating Do’s

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20 years ago, I went on my first online date.

I remember only one thing about it: the guy told me that his dad ran a hot air balloon company, and maybe he could take me on a hot air balloon ride over the valley some time.

I walked back to my car thinking, “Did this guy just try to buy me?” [Read more…] about 3 Online Dating Do’s

Bring Love Back to Dating!

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Most of us play the dating game for one reason:

Love.

Love is everything. It’s how we want to live our lives.

But then we get confused by everyone telling us “how to get a guy” when it’s not so much “a guy” we want but the experiencing of loving another for a lifetime.

Dating experts can tell you how to hook someone. They can tell you how make a man feel obsessed. But notice that they don’t promise you love.

They CAN’T promise you love.

Because not all men are lovers, in the spiritual sense of the word.

They want the good feelings, but they don’t want to extend themselves to support and nurture the growth of another human being.

They just want to see what they can get. How much bang they can buy for their buck.

That consumer mentality is a huge red flag, and unfortunately the way we date feeds it.

If you’re offering him something in hopes of getting “love” in return, then you are putting yourself squarely in marketplace thinking.

There’s a way out, but it requires humility.

A Student Mentality

I think the reason we’re here on this planet is to learn about love.

We are here as students of love.

We’re given this life as an opportunity to explore love for self, love for others, love for the divine, love for life itself.

And human relationships are one of the great playing fields of love.

It’s in our relationships with others that we learn all the essential components of love, like respect, commitment, responsibility, honesty, care, and so forth.

When you see yourself as a student of love, you’re not goal-oriented but rather process-oriented.

You’re not looking for the “perfect person.”

You’re looking for opportunities to practice love, including friendships, partnerships, all kinds of relationships. Anything that helps you expand yourself.

Of course you want that glorious lasting love relationship, because marriage is still the greatest challenge of the heart.

But to get to the point where you stand a chance at making a lifelong relationship work, you need practice.

Practice with boundaries, practice with speaking your truth, practice with mutuality, all that good stuff.

AND for that, you need a practice partner.

That’s what dating is for.

Love Practice

Dating gives you the chance to practice with all kinds of partners.

You get to practice being authentic, saying no, receiving, respecting, negotiating, letting go.

Some partners are better than others.

With some partners, you can feel yourself stretching and growing and learning and coming to understand love in a whole new way.

With other partners, you have fun practicing, but you don’t really get anywhere. You’re stuck doing the same thing over and over again. Your love doesn’t grow.

Your goal is to find a really good partner to really push what you’re both capable of.

What does it take to love another human being? How can you practice that love in everything you do? Can you feel it expanding you? Is he in this with you as an equal partner? Does love excite him as much as it excites you?

Sometimes, your practice with one partner will run its course. You’ll have reached the limits of what you can learn together, and you’ll go find someone else.

That doesn’t mean what you experienced together wasn’t love. It just means that your love reached its limits and you need to go elsewhere if you’re going to grow.

Find a Practice Buddy

So how do you find these love practice partners?

You show up as you are, and you get curious about who other people are, and your heart is open to exploring a connection.

You’re not buying anything.

You’re not selling anything.

You’re just showing up with tenderness, humanity, and curiosity.

Even if online dating apps try to force you into a consumer mentality, judging these guys’ merits based on their match percentages and their photos, recognize how superficial that stuff is.

You’re not picking the perfect option from the menu of potential partners online.

You’re not looking for your future husband.

You’re looking for good guys who are able and willing to do the work of love with you.

And you can only find out if a guy could be a good partner by meeting with him in person and seeing what he’s about.

Love practice partners may be harder to find, but they’re out there.

Watch how he treats you. Watch how he treats others. Listen between the lines for the values he lives by.

A guy who practices love will be genuinely interested in getting to know you. He won’t be jumping to any conclusions about who you are or whether you’d be good together. He’ll be okay if you say no.

Bring Love Back

For me, this is how we solve the crazy mess that’s modern dating.

We’ve got to bring love back into it.

We’ve got to stop trying to “get” our dream partner and instead focus on our own personal growth and self-expansion.

None of us are perfect at loving. We all have triggers and wounds and blocks. Many of us still abandon ourselves the instant we fall in love with someone else.

We’ve got a lot to learn.

So find out what you need to do to love better.

Where are you still operating from limiting beliefs? Where are you slamming doors? What kinds of love do you already have in your life that you’re not valuing? What are you doing to nourish your love for everyone from your companion animals to your reflection in the mirror?

I’ll end with a little secret…

Women who love well are like the smell of grass on a sunny day.

They’re like a long cold drink of ice water in the heat.

They’re like a hug that wraps you up and keeps you safe and accepts all of you and never lets you go.

The world is thirsting for our love.

All too often we think about love in terms of getting some for us. We don’t realize that the love we express and embody is a powerful force for hope and goodness in the world.

I hope you discover the many opportunities around you right now in your life to practice living love. The more you love, the more love shows up. That’s a promise.

This is How You “Win” at The Dating Game

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Everything has to feel like a game these days.

There are apps that make meditation feel like a game…

Apps that turn fitness into a game…

Apps that make dating into a game. [Read more…] about This is How You “Win” at The Dating Game

Where to Find All the Good Men Online – Mat Shaffer

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You are ready for a true love relationship.

You are willing to do WHATEVER it takes to make it work.

You are motivated, you’re positive, and you’re focused.

So you take the plunge. [Read more…] about Where to Find All the Good Men Online – Mat Shaffer

Before You Use a Dating App, Read This

So you’ve read all the advice about how to smash it in online dating…

But have you ever noticed that it never matches up with what ACTUALLY happens when you go out with someone?

Everyone assumes that you WANT to make this guy attracted to you. [Read more…] about Before You Use a Dating App, Read This

Mindful Dating with Dr. Marie Thouin

There’s so much pain wrapped up in dating.

The pain of past love… the pain of not being chosen… the pain of never feeling good enough.

If the reason you date is to find someone who’ll love you forever, then of course you’re going to feel let down [Read more…] about Mindful Dating with Dr. Marie Thouin

Succeed in Dating by Changing This Mindset

Everyone knows that dating sucks.

Because: [Read more…] about Succeed in Dating by Changing This Mindset

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