If the stats are right, 1 in 4 of you are using AI tools like ChatGPT or Claude on a weekly basis.

If you’re not one of them—and you don’t want to be—you can disregard this!

But for those of you already using these tools, I want to suggest some ways to apply them to your romantic relationships.

But first, one big caveat:

Take EVERYTHING those tools say with a hefty grain of salt.

They’re designed to respond the way you want them to. They tell you what you want to hear.

They’re terrible at calling you out, pointing out mistakes in your thinking, or catching potential problems.

And that can mean you miss valuable learning opportunities or stay stuck.

That’s why the first tip I want to give you is this:

Tip #1: Play Devil’s Advocate

When you use AI to ask for personal advice, always ask it to show you the other side of the story. Try prompting it with:

Now tell me why I might be completely wrong about this.
What might this situation look like from his perspective?
What would a brutally honest friend say about this that I might hate hearing?

You’ll often get a more nuanced response.

Tip #2: Decode His Messages

If you get a text or a message you don’t understand from a man, plug it into ChatGPT and ask it what his message might mean (and even how you might respond to it).

Let’s say a man you haven’t seen for a while texts you:

Hey, been really busy lately but would love to catch up sometime.”

Does he really want to see you? Or is he just keeping you on the back burner?

You can plug that text into ChatGPT, along with full details of the situation, and say:

Here’s the exact text he sent. Show me both the positive and negative ways to interpret this.

Then you can get its help crafting a reply.

Help me write a reply that makes him either set a time or drop it.
Give me a short reply that shows I’m open to catching up but not chasing him.

(Just make sure you don’t tip into Chatfishing him!)

Tip #3: Star Chart Compatibility

I’ve never been a huge fan of astrology, but a friend has been using ChatGPT to run star charts for herself and her partner, and wow… I was amazed!

It’s great at pulling out the hidden dynamics of relationships.

You can even ask it to look at your dynamics with your children or your parents—or how all three generations work together and play off each other.

All you have to do is plug in the date, time, and location of birth for each person. (The time of birth is important. It can do a general reading without knowing the time, but it isn’t as accurate).

As someone who’s never done a personalized reading, I’ve been enjoying asking ChatGPT about my health, career, and what the upcoming year has in store for me. It feels qualitatively different to a generic horoscope—though I still wouldn’t take it too seriously.

Try it for a bit of fun, but remember:

These tools are no substitute for professional guidance, and they make mistakes—just like we do!