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In the past few years, I’ve noticed something unsettling.
As bad as the gender wars were when I started my career, they’ve somehow gotten worse.
Social media is a battlefield—men complaining about women, women complaining about men. [Read more…] about The REAL Reason Men & Women Are At War
Have you ever lost faith in love?
Have you ever had your heart broken…
Met someone who turned out not to be the man you thought he was…
Looked in the mirror and wondered why he’d ever choose you?
[Read more…] about Heal Your Heart & Find BETTER Love – Dating Coach Mat Shaffer
Not every man aspires to be an alpha male.
Some men like to see themselves as a “sigma male.”
Whereas an alpha male sees himself as leader of the pack, sigma males are lone wolves. [Read more…] about Should You Date A Sigma Male?
A lot of men genuinely believe that women are only attracted to alpha males.
They believe—and this is going to gross you out—that women are “programmed” to constantly keep an eye out for higher status “males” [Read more…] about Never Date An Alpha Male
What’s the most awful, horrific thing that’s happened to you in relationships?
For me, it was experiencing the sheer hatred of a man who, once he no longer had me, desired to destroy me.
It’s happened to me more than once over my life. It always catches me off guard. [Read more…] about Let Go of Past Pain
There’s something else Mat Shaffer says in our interview that I think is helpful:
Our relationships are a mirror “for where we are at in our own journey within ourselves.”
If you’re having beautiful, healthy relationships, that’s great news! [Read more…] about Why He Doesn’t Treat You Well
Here’s something I didn’t understand back in my twenties:
You attract who you are.
Not what you WANT, but who you ARE.
That’s a quote from Mat Shaffer’s interview with me, [Read more…] about When You Do Everything Right & Still Can’t Find Good Love
In the 20th Century:
If a guy says he’s open to a relationship, he’s open to a relationship.
In the 21st Century:
His behavior will show you if he’s open to a relationship. [Read more…] about Is He a Dater or a Relater?
In the 20th Century:
Be more attractive to men.
In the 21st Century:
Practice the hard skills of loving.
It seemed so obvious at the time: [Read more…] about Don’t Work on Being More Attractive – Do THIS
In the 20th Century:
It’s your responsibility to be attractive.
In the 21st Century:
It’s your “responsibility” to be attractive. (Airquotes intended.) [Read more…] about What’s Wrong With You??
In the 20th Century:
The best way to show him love is to do nice things for him.
In the 21st Century:
The best way to show him love is to understand him. [Read more…] about Be The Woman Who Truly “Gets” Him
In the 20th Century:
He wants a catch.
In the 21st Century:
He wants someone who makes him feel alive.
Yes, you could be slim and gorgeous and accomplished and fascinating… [Read more…] about The Experience He’s Seeking: Is It You?
In the 20th Century:
Interrogate.
In the 21st Century:
Invite.
If you want to get to know someone, what’s the first thing you do? [Read more…] about You Should Ask Him Lots of Questions, Right?
In the 20th Century:
Impress.
In the 21st Century:
Connect.
No wonder we get so nervous about meeting new people. [Read more…] about Don’t Impress Him, PLEASE
In the 20th Century:
Safety means making sure he’s not a serial killer or just wants to get in your pants.
In the 21st Century:
Safety means building trust, communication, boundaries, and accountability into your relationship. [Read more…] about From Serial Killers to Heartbreak: Rethinking Safety in Love
