What are you doing on October 10th?
Would you like to be kickstarting the most incredible year you’ve EVER had in life and love?
If the past year threw you for a loop – and you’re STILL recovering – then I’d like to extend a helping hand. 🙂
I invited my friend Mat Shaffer back onto the show, and he’s offered to do some coaching for ANY woman serious about making a shift in the new year.
No one is better positioned than Mat to see how last year changed the dating scene.
Over the last few years, Mat has worked with over 10,000 women in 50+ countries, coaching them through the inner work of removing their blocks to love.
He knows that a lot of us spent last year lonely. He saw the breakups and divorces.
And he has an unusual perspective on the upheaval of last year.
He believes that it’s put us in front of a unique opportunity, one that most women will NEVER see.
Discover why this year could be the best year EVER in love for women who know THIS secret.
What You’ll Learn
“If there’s one huge lesson that I have found in 2020,” Mat says, “it was the value of really looking within and doing inner work that maybe I was too busy to do before.”
Not many people can say that last year was one of their best years. But Mat took on the challenge.
“A lot of my greatest challenges and greatest obstacles that I faced ended up being my greatest opportunities,” he says. “All those things I thought were these insurmountable obstacles ended up being huge platforms that have moved me towards the life and vision I want to create.”
It helped that he was okay about being on his own when the world outside hunkered down to ride out the pandemic.
“Why do we have so much resistance around being alone?” he asks. “What is it about ourselves that we are so afraid to look at or evaluate?”
As life slowed down to a standstill, the distractions and excuses that kept many of us from evaluating the parts of our life that weren’t working vanished.
Relationships bowed under the strain. Some broke.
“People were finally forced to look at and confront the truth of what was happening in their relationships… and whether or not it was actually a good idea for them to be together,” Mat says.
These were questions that could have been asked before pandemic life came crushing down…
But few of us take the time to truly evaluate our lives unless we have to.
Mat sees a lot of his clients “hide behind being busy. They use their daily routines and they use all these different activities that they’re participating in as a way of escaping from doing inner work.”
That’s where he sees opportunity in the way life ground to a halt last year.
When there’s nowhere to go and nothing to do, the one thing you CAN do is look inside.
Doing the Inner Work
“Inner work is the key to creating healthy relationships, because the relationships we have with others are a mirror for our relationship with ourselves,” Mat says.
“If you’re not worthy in the way that you see yourself, your relationships with other people are going to reflect that unworthiness.”
It can feel like your love life is going nowhere if you’re not going out on a lot of dates or you’re not getting hits online. How can you attract love when you’re sitting at home alone?
“Where so many women take a wrong turn in dating is they’re so focused on, ‘What can I DO? How can I do this differently?'” Mat says.
At the end of the day, men are so much less interested in what you’re doing and so much more attracted to—and magnetized to—who you are being.”
And you can work on who you are BEING anywhere, anytime.
That inner work shows up immediately in how other people perceive you.
“We are attracted to energy,” Mat says. “And so when we do inner work, our energy shifts. When our energy shifts, our reality changes. Our relationships change.”
Mat leads single women through a process of inner transformation in his courses Mastery of Connection and Mastery of Magnetism.
“It’s been incredible to see how it’s spread,” he says. No matter where in the world a woman is from, or what stage in life she’s in, “the problems are all the same, the obstacles are the same, the challenges are the same, and the breakthroughs are are the same.”
Mastery of Connection
The reason Mat teaches the art of connection is because “the masculine is craving connection, especially from the feminine. We feed off of it. It nourishes us in a deep and fundamental way.”
Yet often women have learned to avoid showing any interest in a man, for fear of scaring him off.
“The problem with that is a lot of women lean back so far that they end up putting themselves on an island,” Mat says.
“You’re imposing this permanent gap between you and men that you want to be interested in you.”
The only men willing to scale that wall are the men who are interested in the hunt—the playboys, the narcissists, the users—rather than the men looking for an open-hearted woman to love.
“Part of what the masculine is craving is an invitation from the feminine,” Mat says.
So make eye contact. Say hi. Smile with your eyes. Encourage men with your energy and open body language.
Behind the Mask
But the world is not conducive to connection right now, is it?
We’re wearing masks. We’re social distancing.
Which makes those few women who DO dare to connect stand out from the crowd.
“A lot of people have canceled themselves out of connecting with people out in the real world because of COVID,” Mat explains. “There’s a lot more opportunities to connect out in the world now, because it’s happening way less.”
Wearing a mask doesn’t stop you from making eye contact with an attractive man.
“You can smile under that mask, and he will feel that energy,” Mat says.
Being able to lock eyes with somebody, being able to look at somebody in a relaxed, confident way, and then—when he matches your gaze—to not look away, is one of the most powerful invitations you can make to a man.”
How Do Men See You?
It can be hard to know whether men perceive you as open to connection or not.
What if something about your body language is off-putting?
What if you’re shutting them down without realizing it?
That’s where having a coach can help.
“You want to have someone in your life who is a mirror for you,” Mat says. You can’t always see yourself clearly, but a coach can see what you already do well and where you can improve.
That’s where Mat comes in.
“I help you see what’s standing between you and what you want,” he says.
Mat lives to help women connect with men in a meaningful fulfilling way.
One of the fundamental truths of dating is that, at the core of it, men and women want the same things. We both want to feel loved and seen and heard and to be emotionally safe and to feel deep meaningful connection with each other. We just have slightly different languages.”
If you’re ready to embark on a journey of self-discovery…
And experience an abundance of love and connection in the new year…
“Oftentimes, the only thing standing between us and the relationship that we want, and the life that we want, is us,” Mat says.
When we change how we see ourselves, the whole world around us shifts fundamentally, including our relationship with love.”
Mat is an experienced intuitive coach for women looking to foster deep connection and personal empowerment so they can experience freedom, joy and fulfilling relationships in all areas of their lives. He draws on years of personal development and emotional intelligence training to provide world class coaching to women hungry to reach the next level in any or all areas of their lives. Join Mat to break through the beliefs holding you back from love.