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What do you do when all that great relationship advice doesn’t work with your particular partner?
He mocks you when you express your feelings. He refuses to try anything new. He maintains that you’re the problem, not him. [Read more…] about Difficult Relationships With Difficult Men: Part I
In the past few years, I’ve noticed something unsettling.
As bad as the gender wars were when I started my career, they’ve somehow gotten worse.
Social media is a battlefield—men complaining about women, women complaining about men. [Read more…] about The REAL Reason Men & Women Are At War
In 1991, Alison Armstrong got a phone call that stopped her in her tracks.
A friend called her out on the way she spoke to men.
Alison didn’t believe it at first. [Read more…] about Never Say A Bad Word About Men Again?
Not every man aspires to be an alpha male.
Some men like to see themselves as a “sigma male.”
Whereas an alpha male sees himself as leader of the pack, sigma males are lone wolves. [Read more…] about Should You Date A Sigma Male?
A lot of men genuinely believe that women are only attracted to alpha males.
They believe—and this is going to gross you out—that women are “programmed” to constantly keep an eye out for higher status “males” [Read more…] about Never Date An Alpha Male
What’s the most awful, horrific thing that’s happened to you in relationships?
For me, it was experiencing the sheer hatred of a man who, once he no longer had me, desired to destroy me.
It’s happened to me more than once over my life. It always catches me off guard. [Read more…] about Let Go of Past Pain
There’s something else Mat Shaffer says in our interview that I think is helpful:
Our relationships are a mirror “for where we are at in our own journey within ourselves.”
If you’re having beautiful, healthy relationships, that’s great news! [Read more…] about Why He Doesn’t Treat You Well
Here’s something I didn’t understand back in my twenties:
You attract who you are.
Not what you WANT, but who you ARE.
That’s a quote from Mat Shaffer’s interview with me, [Read more…] about When You Do Everything Right & Still Can’t Find Good Love
In the 20th Century:
If a guy says he’s open to a relationship, he’s open to a relationship.
In the 21st Century:
His behavior will show you if he’s open to a relationship. [Read more…] about Is He a Dater or a Relater?
In the 20th Century:
Be more attractive to men.
In the 21st Century:
Practice the hard skills of loving.
It seemed so obvious at the time: [Read more…] about Don’t Work on Being More Attractive – Do THIS
In the 20th Century:
You deserve your own happy-ever-after.
In the 21st Century:
You have free will to make choices.
Back in the early days of my career, I used to reassure people: [Read more…] about You’ll End Up Married, Won’t You?
In the 20th Century:
Forgive & forget.
In the 21st Century:
Fix it.
Good people forgive and forget. [Read more…] about Should You Keep Forgiving Him?
In the 20th Century:
It’s your responsibility to be attractive.
In the 21st Century:
It’s your “responsibility” to be attractive. (Airquotes intended.) [Read more…] about What’s Wrong With You??
In the 20th Century:
Men are only attracted to women living their best life.
In the 21st Century:
Your best life may not leave you with room for anyone else.
I came of age in the 1990s, and all the women’s magazines I devoured told me the same thing: [Read more…] about Rethinking “Living Your Best Life”
In the 20th Century:
The best way to show him love is to do nice things for him.
In the 21st Century:
The best way to show him love is to understand him. [Read more…] about Be The Woman Who Truly “Gets” Him
