As of 2025, you can no longer be sure he isn’t writing his texts without the help of AI. What does that mean for you?
It means you’ve got to adapt. Here are 3 good places to start.
1. Bring It Up
You don’t have to guess or wonder whether he’s using AI. Just ask.
Hey, can I ask you something? I know AI shows suggested replies when we text now. Do you ever use them?”
Keep it casual and low-pressure. You’re not accusing him of anything; you’re opening a conversation.
Then share your perspective.
I totally get why people use AI. It’s fast and convenient. But for me, it makes it harder to feel close to someone. What are your thoughts?”
2. Don’t confuse texting with trust.
These days, a lot of singles treat texting as a game. Say something clever, make them fall for you, get them to feel attraction.
So see it as a game you play together. It’s fun, flirty, and entertaining.
But don’t mistake it for intimacy.
Real connection doesn’t happen on a screen. It happens when you’re sitting across from each other, hearing the tone of his voice, seeing his face, and feeling the energy between you.
That’s when you know if it’s real.
And if you’re falling for someone you’ve only met online? The hard truth is that you’ve only met his (possibly AI-enhanced) avatar.
You won’t know who he really is until you’ve met and spent time together in person.
3. Focus on the ones who show up.
There are a lot of guys who enjoy the texting game and are good at it, but they’re not so good at forming real relationships.
Don’t let your time get wasted by guys who play a good game.
Set your sights on someone who wants to get OFF the phone and into your life.
Even if he’s bad at texting, that doesn’t matter. What matters is how good he is at talking in real life.
Judge him by the things that matter most.
Not his clever words on a screen.
But the way he looks at you when he says them in real life.
Let us know what you think!