Tell me 3 reasons you don’t feel attractive.
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Nearly all of us have times when we don’t feel attractive.
(And some of us feel that way ALL the time!)
A 2023 YouGov survey in the U.S. found that:
- 37% of women said they rarely or never feel attractive.
- Only 21% of women said they feel attractive often or always.
And before you envy those 1 in 5 women who regularly feel attractive, remember this:
The way we FEEL about our appearance is often unrelated to how we actually LOOK to others.
Even beautiful women can be among the 37% who rarely or never feel attractive.
(And we all know women who think they’re hot stuff but are perfectly average!)
Your Self-Image Could Be Affecting Your Relationship
The sad thing is, this doesn’t just cause us a lot of pain.
It’s hard for the men in our lives.
Men struggle when the woman they love doesn’t feel good about her body.
Because it makes her self-conscious.
It can make her more touchy.
It can even lead to avoiding intimacy, because she doesn’t want him touching her when she’s feeling like this.
Men wish women liked their bodies as much as men do.
A Trick to Feeling Better About Your Body
But, as you and I know, that’s a big ask.
How do you love your body when all the messages you’ve gotten your ENTIRE LIFE tell you that your body isn’t ideal?
I’ve only found one way that works:
Taking loving care of your body.
When you take time every day to look after your body and be good to it…
Whether it’s by “taking your body out for a walk” (e.g., exercise), giving your body some sunshine, or feeding your body well…
You start to care for this body that’s your home in this lifetime.
You realize it’s not at fault for how you feel about yourself.
It’s just doing what bodies do.
But How Can I Love My Body When It Looks This?
There’s one thing most of us struggle to forgive our bodies for:
Our weight.
Was that on your list of reasons you don’t feel attractive?
Do you feel like your self-worth comes down to what the scales tell you?
I wish I could tell you to ignore it, but I know how my own self-esteem has risen and fallen based on how I perceived my weight.
When my weight finally stabilized in my early 30s, it freed up so much of my mental energy. I can’t tell you how nice it is not to worry. I don’t ever want to go back to those years when I policed everything I ate.
I was able to stop worrying because I learned to eat in a different way.
It’s not something I usually share, because I don’t want to make you think your body isn’t perfect exactly as it is.
But if you’re interested in learning what I did, you can find out here.
Let us know what you think!