Trust matters more to some men than love.
Because “I love you” comes with a lot of baggage.
Meanwhile, “I trust you” is a vote of confidence that makes a man’s heart swell.
But if you tell a man you trust him when you barely know him, he’s not going to believe you. He knows trust is earned.
And the way we earn trust is by making our way through someone’s Circle of Trust.
What’s The Circle of Trust?
The Circle of Trust is a powerful tool that helps you trust people appropriately.
Here’s how it works.
Imagine a circle with concentric rings.
At the heart of the circle, in the innermost ring, is just one person:
YOU.
The most important person you can trust—the person you need to have 100% faith in—is yourself.
You should never trust other people more than you trust yourself.
Ring 2: Inner Circle
In the next ring are those you are closest to. These are the people you respect, trust, and love with all your heart.
These people have earned the highest level of trust you can give another human being. Ultimately, you want your romantic partner to earn his right to be in this ring.
Ring 3: Friends
The next ring includes close friends and people you care about.
Maybe these aren’t people you could call at 2am when you can’t sleep, but they’re good people. They are there for you as much as they can be.
Ring 4: Acquaintances
These are people you know, like, and interact with. They may include co-workers, people from your gym or church, or distant relatives.
Even though you may not be very close to these people, they still belong in your Circle of Trust, because you know you can trust them in limited circumstances.
Outside: Everyone else
Everyone else belongs outside your Circle of Trust. They have to earn the right to enter your circle by showing you they’re reliable and trustworthy.
Any new man you meet starts outside the Circle.
As he displays trustworthy behaviors, you can let him in one level at a time.
If he behaves in an untrustworthy way, such as not showing up on time, not respecting you, or avoiding any talk of commitment, you pull him out one level and trust him less.
The Circle of Trust helps you become more objective about assigning trust.
It’s not about whether he deserves to be trusted.
It’s about whether he’s earned that trust.
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