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I’m not courting controversy, but I really believe this:
Much of the dating and relationship advice out there is actually dangerous.
That’s a strong word, but it’s the right one.
It’s designed to make you appeal to the type of men most likely to take advantage of you. [Read more…] about Watch Out For Dangerous Love Advice
It’s scary to consider the idea that love may not be the main emotion at play in your relationship.
You need to believe your partner loves you. Questioning that—even for a moment—can feel catastrophic. [Read more…] about Can You Love Each Other & Still Hate Each Other Sometimes?
Do you think it’s possible for a man to love you a lot and just never show it?
Do you think it’s possible for a man to be totally selfish and still love you?
Do you think it’s possible for a man to be incredibly hurtful and still love you? [Read more…] about Look For This Clue to How He Feels
I feel a bit cringe when I write anything about “How to Make a Man Love You More.”
Because there’s something important I’m leaving out.
You CAN’T make some men love you more. [Read more…] about His Love Capacity
I wish someone had taught me what I’m teaching you now.
Twenty years ago, I didn’t know how to fix a relationship or how to end it. I’d let things get so bad he’d break up with me.🤦♀️
Bad boyfriends broke me, but they also taught me the need to grow a backbone. [Read more…] about Difficult Relationships With Difficult Men Part III
When you’re in a difficult relationship, you just want him to change.
But he’s so stubborn. He refuses to change his hurtful behaviors or get any help.
And why should he? [Read more…] about Difficult Relationship With Difficult Men Part II
What do you do when all that great relationship advice doesn’t work with your particular partner?
He mocks you when you express your feelings. He refuses to try anything new. He maintains that you’re the problem, not him. [Read more…] about Difficult Relationships With Difficult Men: Part I
In the past few years, I’ve noticed something unsettling.
As bad as the gender wars were when I started my career, they’ve somehow gotten worse.
Social media is a battlefield—men complaining about women, women complaining about men. [Read more…] about The REAL Reason Men & Women Are At War
In 1991, Alison Armstrong got a phone call that stopped her in her tracks.
A friend called her out on the way she spoke to men.
Alison didn’t believe it at first. [Read more…] about Never Say A Bad Word About Men Again?
Not every man aspires to be an alpha male.
Some men like to see themselves as a “sigma male.”
Whereas an alpha male sees himself as leader of the pack, sigma males are lone wolves. [Read more…] about Should You Date A Sigma Male?
A lot of men genuinely believe that women are only attracted to alpha males.
They believe—and this is going to gross you out—that women are “programmed” to constantly keep an eye out for higher status “males” [Read more…] about Never Date An Alpha Male
What’s the most awful, horrific thing that’s happened to you in relationships?
For me, it was experiencing the sheer hatred of a man who, once he no longer had me, desired to destroy me.
It’s happened to me more than once over my life. It always catches me off guard. [Read more…] about Let Go of Past Pain
There’s something else Mat Shaffer says in our interview that I think is helpful:
Our relationships are a mirror “for where we are at in our own journey within ourselves.”
If you’re having beautiful, healthy relationships, that’s great news! [Read more…] about Why He Doesn’t Treat You Well
Here’s something I didn’t understand back in my twenties:
You attract who you are.
Not what you WANT, but who you ARE.
That’s a quote from Mat Shaffer’s interview with me, [Read more…] about When You Do Everything Right & Still Can’t Find Good Love
In the 20th Century:
If a guy says he’s open to a relationship, he’s open to a relationship.
In the 21st Century:
His behavior will show you if he’s open to a relationship. [Read more…] about Is He a Dater or a Relater?
