
Last summer I spent some months researching what men online were saying about love and relationships.
And the fact is…
A lot of men are opting out of the dating game because they just don’t think it’s worth the effort.
They’re finding that they have to be the ones making all the effort. Women won’t initiate or even show they’re interested.
They’re finding it frustrating to deal with all the ghosting and flakiness.
They’re often unclear about women’s intentions, because the women they’re meeting aren’t clear about what they want or whether they’re even interested.
They think women have too high of standards when it comes to height, income, and lifestyle, especially when the women aren’t much of a catch themselves.
And they’re tired of the “grass is always greener” mentality where women hang out with them until a better option comes along.
Now, are you ready for your mind to be blown?
Here’s what women are saying.
A lot of women are opting out of the dating game because they just don’t think it’s worth the effort.
They’re finding that men put little effort into conversations, rarely follow up, and don’t pay attention to what women say in their profile.
They’re finding it frustrating to deal with all the ghosting and flakiness.
They’re often unclear about men’s intentions, because the men they meet sometimes lead them on or misrepresent what they really want.
They think men have too high of standards when it comes to looks and lifestyle, especially when men aren’t much of a catch themselves.
And they’re tired of the “grass is always greener” mentality where men spend time with them until a better option comes along.
Is there an echo in here? 😉
We’re both having the same problems!
And we’re both having the same problems because these are dating problems. They’re built into the fabric of modern dating.
As a love expert who’s been doing this for twenty years, I’ve become concerned about the spike in gender bashing going on in online spaces.
Yes, women will always complain about men and men will always complain about women, but there used to be a friendliness about it. It was funny and affectionate.
The difference now is that it’s adversarial. It’s taking sides. It’s one against the other.
Some of the loudest men online don’t want to understand women. They want to condemn them.
And yet they still want relationships—with AI, because an AI girlfriend is “obviously” better than a faulty real-life woman.
Now, I’m all for opting out of dating. I don’t think it makes sense for everyone. Single life has never been better. The freedom, the independence, the options singles have is unprecedented. If a relationship doesn’t make your life better, you don’t need it.
But there’s a huge difference between choosing a life you enjoy and hating on the opposite sex so much that you end up alone and resentful.
How men stereotype women… and how women stereotype men… is tearing us apart.
There’s a better way to approach the things you hate most about dating, and I’ll reveal it in my next post. Stay tuned.
Let us know what you think!