You know that electric feeling you get when someone looks at you like you’re the most interesting person in the room?
Most of us haven’t felt that in years… and it’s killing our relationships.
There is nothing like talking to someone who’s interested in everything you say…
Who asks you questions and listens closely to the answers…
Who expresses admiration and appreciation for who you are.
In the presence of someone who thinks you’re wonderful, you light up. You become bolder, more confident, more at ease. You feel your best self reflected in their eyes.
But so few of us have anyone like that.
Many of you in relationships have long passed the stage where your partner lit up every time he saw you.
You know what each other will say before you even ask. Your partner isn’t interesting anymore.
And this feeling of being taken for granted in relationship…
Of knowing your partner finds other people a lot more fascinating than you…
Grinds away at love, wearing it down.
Knowing that your partner doesn’t think you’re wonderful anymore can even lead to fantasizing about meeting someone new, someone who appreciates you.
When was the last time you felt that the person you were with thought you were wonderful?
Who was that person?
We’ve been done a disservice as women. We’ve been taught that it’s our bodiesthat appeal to men. The only reason a man would find us wonderful is if our bodies are “attractive” enough.
But often what makes a man fall for a woman in the first place is not so much the particulars of her body—most men find a whole range of bodies attractive—but rather the way she sees him.
She looks at him with stars in her eyes.
Do You Compliment Men?
When’s the last time you were really impressed by a man?
Did you show your appreciation? Or did you hide it so as not to seem too keen?
Letting a man know you admire and respect about him is a gift.
Especially if what you admire is:
- Something not many people notice
- Something important to his identity
- Something so specific he can’t doubt it’s genuine
When I spent last year researching what men crave most in relationships, compliments popped up again and again.
Some men still remembered a compliment they got back in high school about the color of their shirt matching their eyes or having nice shoulders.
They can count on one hand the number of compliments they’ve received in their life.
What these men find most difficult about dating and relationships is that they’re expected to compliment women all the time. But what about them? Don’t they have a right to be appreciated?
Your guy may never tell you he craves compliments. It’s too embarrassing. He may pretend to brush them off.
But take it from me—he’ll remember what you say….
Maybe even for the rest of his life.
You Deserve Compliments, Too
One last thing:
It’s not just about compliments for him.
It’s not just about making sure he knows you think he’s one of the best men you’ve ever met.
It’s also about compliments for you.
It’s about the light in his eyes when he looks at you.
Too often we settle for relationships where we think he’s wonderful… and he thinks we’re “okay.”
We want to be with him so much that it doesn’t matter if he’s merely lukewarm.
We think we can win him over. We’ll show him how wonderful it could be, being with us. We’ll make sure he only sees our most positive, attractive energy… and we’ll hide our needs and our fears.
That’s not how relationships grow.
Relationships grow from two people who both think the other is incredible.
You deserve to be with a man who thinks you’re wonderful…
Not a man you have to convince.
Let us know what you think!