What Men Are Struggling With

Over the past year, I’ve spent so much time listening to the voices of men.

Finding out how they feel about love…
How they feel about women…
What they’re worried about…
What they wish for.

And you know what surprised me?

It surprised me how vulnerable they felt.

Men today are under extreme amounts of pressure. They feel that their identity rests on being a provider, so economic anxiety hits hard.

They feel pressure to be strong and to be a good friend. They feel huge pressure to be more masculine.

They feel like no one cares about them, no one asks if they’re okay, and no one really knows them. Many feel they’re unlovable.

So it wasn’t a surprise when I saw those feeling echoed in the 2025 State of American Men study (well worth a skim).

The study points out that men tend to feel worse after spending time online, where they’re hearing things like:

“Men have it harder than women when it comes to new opportunities.”

“Men can have their reputation destroyed just for speaking their minds these days.”

“Things are generally better when men bring in money and women take care of the home and kids.”

“Feminism is about favoring women over men.”

“You must be an alpha male these days to get a partner.”

When men lack supportive relationships, they’re more vulnerable to extreme beliefs.

And those extreme beliefs can isolate them further (e.g., if they believe all women are out to use men, they’ll interpret anything a woman does as an attempt to use them).

Have you come across those beliefs before?

If so, how did you handle it?