What He REALLY Sees When He Looks At You

What does your partner think when he looks at you?

It’s a simple but powerful question.

Because it reveals the subconscious truth about what you fear.

Why You Feel This Way About Yourself

We’ve been taught that we’re responsible for the way we feel about ourselves. If we had better self-esteem, we would feel better.

But that’s not the whole story.

We develop our self-image as children from what we see on other people’s faces when they look at us.

When your mother looks at you and smiles, you feel good. You know the sight of you is pleasing to her, and it makes you feel loved.

When your partner looks at you with simmering heat, you feel attractive. You know the sight of you turns him on, and it makes you feel wanted.

But not everyone has those experiences.

Other People Affect Your Self-Esteem

Some people grew up seeing anger or disgust on their parents’ faces. Others are with partners who barely even look at them.

And that impacts their self-esteem.

Not because they lack confidence, but because we know who we are by the way other people react to us.

Even the most beautiful woman can start to feel ugly when she’s with a partner who will barely touch her.

Even the most virtuous man can start to feel like a bad guy when he’s with a partner who’s always criticizing him.

Remember This When You Smile At Him

That’s why the most important gift you can give the person you love – a gift you should give over and over again – is to look them in the eye and smile. Show them that the sight of them pleases you.

But what if your partner doesn’t do that for you?

What if he ignores you? What if he barely looks at you?

Then you need to find someone who does… and it doesn’t necessarily have to involve leaving him.

You can get it from a pet, from a close friend, from a grandparent. Anyone who looks at you with adoring eyes.

The loving gaze matters.

Without positive mirroring, your self-image will start to match what you think your partner sees – someone unattractive, uninteresting, unworthy of attention.

(By the way, if you’re feeling that way, you’re going to want to check out my free quiz. It will help you see if your relationship is crossing a line and becoming toxic.)

So let’s go back to our original question:

What does your partner see when he looks at you?

And what does that tell you?