Watch Out For Dangerous Love Advice

I’m not courting controversy, but I really believe this:

Much of the dating and relationship advice out there is actually dangerous.

That’s a strong word, but it’s the right one.

It’s designed to make you appeal to the type of men most likely to take advantage of you.

If you’ve ever been told…

• Don’t be needy
• Don’t impose on him
• Be more easy-going
• Stop nagging
• Respect his need for space
• Ask less of him and be grateful for the little you get

Then congratulations! You’ve been trained to appeal to men with a low Love Capacity.

Do You Know His Love Capacity?

We all have a different capacity for love.

Some people have huge hearts. Some people have small ones.

A man with high Love Capacity will:

• Adjust his life for the woman he loves
• Take care of her when she’s sick
• Make her smile when she’s feeling down
• Sacrifice his own comfort if she gets an amazing career opportunity
• Happily turn down boozy nights out for lovely warm nights in with her
• Look for solutions where you both can win—because that’s what you do when you love someone.

A man with low Love Capacity may do a few of those things when he’s in courtship mode. But once he’s in a relationship? He expects the power to revert to him.

He doesn’t want to adjust his life for a woman. He expects her to adjust to him.

If she keeps inconveniencing him, he cuts her off.

This is why so much dating advice focuses on teaching women to adapt to a man’s preferences, rather than expecting him to meet her halfway.

If you’re in love with a man with low Love Capacity, that’s the ONLY way he’ll agree to a relationship with you. Expecting more will just hasten your breakup.

Does It Even Matter?

But what if you love this man and it’s worth it to you?

You’re willing to sacrifice and give up for him. That’s just what love does.

Well, here’s a way to think about it.

Getting into a relationship with a man who has low Love Capacity is like buying a car that’s a lemon.

It keeps breaking down, leaving you stranded, costing you a fortune, but you love it so much that you can’t bear to give it up. You think it’s the only car you will ever love.

Now, if all you had to do was sit in it and wave at the neighbors, you would be fine.

But it’s a car. It’s meant to get you from A to B reliably. And this car just can’t do that. It’s nothing personal. It’s just how it’s built.

So, if the point of a relationship is to feel loved and supported, and you are with a man who won’t and indeed can’t love and support you reliably, then your relationship is not fit for purpose. It’s a lemon. It’s never going to cause you anything other than grief.

Now, can I ask you:

Do you think your relationship is fit for purpose?
Do you think your guy has a high or a low Love Capacity?

I would trust your gut on this. I think you already know the answer.

If you’ve been struggling in your relationship and you’re wondering whether what you’re going through is normal conflict or something worse, then I have a quiz for you.

It’s called The Mean Switch Quiz, and it will help you figure out whether your guy has a Mean Switch and what exactly that means. Just go here to take the quiz and spot what’s really going on beneath the surface of your relationship