This Affects His Desire for You

In the 20th Century:
You have an obligation to keep yourself attractive for him.

In the 21st Century:
You have an obligation to yourself to enjoy your body.

I shake my head when I think about the “cheat-proof your marriage” advice we used to hear.

You’d hear people whisper, “Well, of course he cheated on her. She let herself go.”

It was a woman’s responsibility to keep herself fit, slim, and attractive for her husband.

If she failed in that responsibility, of course he’d go looking elsewhere.

That’s a rigged game.

No woman can win.

(Imagine if we said that men had to keep themselves fit and slim for their wives! I can hear it now: “Of course she cheated on him. He let himself go.”)

The truth is that love is what makes us attractive, not our figure.

Married couples who make it work find each other even more attractive as they age. It isn’t the body; it’s the person. It’s their history. It’s their love.

But there is one thing men struggle with that impacts their desire.

You see, men always think their wives look beautiful.

But they have a hard time when their wives don’t think they’re beautiful.

It’s the way she feels about her body that causes problems, not her body itself.

Questions to consider:

• Have I ever thought it’s impossible for a man to be attracted to me, given how I look?
• When my clothes are off, do I worry about what my partner sees?
• How can I enjoy my body more?

P.S. I tackle this and 16 more myths about attraction and desire in Unleash Your Pleasure Power. These myths could be holding you back in the bedroom right now and you’d never know it.