In the 20th Century:
If you love him, you’ll let it slide.
In the 21st Century:
If you love him, you’ll call him out on it.
Once upon a time, you did what you were told and didn’t complain.
As a woman, you had no right to tell your man what to do.
Men did what they did. Women had to work around them.
I expect that many of you were raised to not complain and be the better person.
He’s a man. That’s just how it is.
You love him, so let it go. Your peace is too important to get upset over it.
Isn’t that the best advice for a happy marriage?
It certainly helped women survive marriages where their wants and needs weren’t important…
But in the 21st century we expect more.
We expect our partners to care.
We assume they want to know if something they’re doing is hurting us.
It’s incredibly uncomfortable to say, “Can we talk about something?”
But the more you have those conversations, the more you (should) see they’re nothing to be frightened of.
You’re teaching each other how you need to be loved.
Ask yourself:
- How can I teach him what I need from our love?
- When I feel resentment, what do I do with it?
P.S. Some relationships can’t handle this. Saying nothing is the only way you’ll survive.
Not all relationships can be 21st century relationships. That’s okay, too.
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