A while back, a friend started texting me back differently.
Her replies to my texts didn’t sound like her. They were short and chipper—sometimes with emojis. She didn’t use emojis. What was going on?
Turns out her phone had updated. Now it showed AI-generated “suggested replies” every time she went to write a text.
Of course she sometimes clicked on those replies. They expressed what she meant. Why not? It was quicker and easier.
I understood. But I couldn’t shake the feeling that something real was being lost.
Let me ask you something.
When you’re texting your guy, how would it feel to learn that his “I miss you,” “I love you,” or “Can’t wait to see you” didn’t come from his heart… but rather from his phone?
Texting As A Team Effort
As long as there’s been texting, women AND men have reached out to friends for help figuring out what to write back to a hot date.
There’s even a bustling market in ebooks filled with suggestions on what to text him in every possible situation. (I may have even possibly contributed to one. 😉)
But now we don’t need friends to help us or lists of text ideas.
We have AI.
AI is starting to get built into our phones. Many of us can’t avoid it even if we wanted to.
What does that mean for romance?
The Age of AI-Assisted Romance
In the near future, using AI to write your texts won’t be weird. It’ll be the norm.
And that means every sweet, thoughtful, or funny message you receive from a man will come with a new kind of uncertainty.
Did he write that?
Or did his phone?
The better he sounds, the more suspicious you’ll feel.
It’s already happening. More and more women are falling for a man’s sweet and funny messages online—only to meet him in person and discover he’s got no personality at all.
For women who think it’s possible to fall in love over texts or DMs without ever meeting the guy in real life, this shift is going to hit hard.
In my next post, I’ll talk about how we can adapt. What it looks like to stay smart, grounded, and emotionally safe in a world where not every message is written by a human hand.
But for now, I just want to leave you with this:
What would it feel like to never fully trust what he writes to you again?
To always have that little doubt…
Was that really him?
Let us know what you think!