Dating Red Flags & Green Lights with Coach Eric

Are you confident you could spot the difference between a man who’s trying to play you… and a man who’s serious about finding a relationship?

If you’ve spent any time on dating apps, you know that it isn’t easy! Too many men say what they think you want to hear.

Luckily we’ve got dating coach Eric Leonhard on our side.

Eric is a professional dating coach renowned for his wide range of services for both men and women, including mock dates, online dating strategy, and communication styles for healthy relationships.

I sat down to talk with him to get the scoop on what women need to know to succeed in dating today (and Eric is offering you a free gift you don’t want to miss!)

In our wide-ranging interview, we cover:

• The “Player” Puzzle: Why do some seemingly charming men ghost/dump you? Discover the surprising origins of their tactics.
• Decoding Mixed Signals: Is he genuinely nice, or does he have a hidden agenda? Unravel the mystery behind the “nice guy” persona.
• The Alpha Illusion: What makes a man truly strong and masculine—and how can you spot the difference from a superficial act?
• The Approach Paradox: Why does it feel like guys don’t come up and talk to women anymore—and what simple action can get you tons more attention from men?
• Decode His Profile: Spot the subtle clues in a profile and initial messages that reveal he’s serious about finding a relationship.
• How To Flush Out A Scammer: Doing this will make you scammer-proof AND make it less likely you’ll be ghosted.
• What Men Are Afraid Of: Discover the unexpected fears and concerns are holding back many good men from love.
• The Coaching Advantage: Find out how personalized dating guidance can make a huge difference—and how you can get Eric’s feedback for FREE on your situation!

Watch it below:

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Why Some Guys Are Jerks

One of the WORST parts about dating online is all the jerks you meet.

Some guys say rude things, brush you off, and make you feel small.

Dating coach Eric gets it. He started his career working with men like this.

These guys had studied how to pick up women but weren’t having any luck finding relationships. And no wonder! They were using gimmicky, sometimes toxic strategies to get women’s attention—only to find it backfired on them.

Unfortunately, many of them didn’t see the connection. They’d been taught that women respond to dominance displays and are turned off when a man is nice.

When a guy like this starts coaching with Eric, he learns that it’s a myth that women don’t like nice guys. Women love to be treated with kindness and respect. What they don’t like—and rightly so—is a man who sacrifices his values for validation.

A man who pretends to like the same things a woman likes isn’t being nice; he’s being needy and manipulative.

Eric teaches these men to put aside pickup principles and instead focus on what women need most in the early days of a relationship: comfort, trust, and safety.

Spotting a Truly Great Guy (Vs. A Fake One)

Many women dream of meeting a strong, masculine man—but some men interpret this as a female desire to be dominated by an alpha male. The two are not the same.

“Alpha males” are putting on a persona for the purpose of attracting women.

Truly strong, masculine men, on the other hand, exhibit inner strength, integrity, a moral compass, and respect for others.

You can tell the difference between the two by how pushy they are.

A wanna-be alpha male will push you too fast, particularly when it comes to physical intimacy.

A truly strong, masculine man will focus on getting to know you, building rapport and connection first, so that you feel comfortable and safe.

Why Men Hold Back

We’ve been taught that men like to chase.

But that’s not true anymore. Ever since #MeToo, high quality men are sitting back and waiting for a green light before they’ll approach a woman. They believe that women don’t want to be bothered. They want to know she’s interested in them first.

(Players and pickup artists, on the other hand, still approach women regardless of whether she’s shown she’s open to being approached—which means that the guys approaching you may not be the kind of guys you want.)

That means we have to change our dating strategy if we want attention from high quality men.

Eric suggests that women learn how to create “invitations” for connection. Make eye contact. Smile. Say hello first. Then let him take it from there if he’s interested.

This one simple change can turn your love life around and put you back in the driver’s seat.

Look For Investment

If you’re searching for love online and wondering which matches are ones you should pursue, Eric suggests looking for profiles that suggest a man has put time and care into crafting them.

Stay away from profiles that contain just a few lines and a bathroom selfie. You want to see he’s put effort into getting quality photos and writing a clear profile.

You should also see signs of investment in the messages he sends you.

Even though he may send you a somewhat generic message at first—many men don’t have time to write personalized first messages to every match—he should put a little time into thinking about what to say to you. He won’t just drop one-liners and flirt. He’ll ask you questions about yourself and use your answers to come up with first date ideas.

Don’t Chat Forever

A common mistake women make is trying to draw out those initial online exchanges so there’s an emotional bond before meeting in person.

But Eric doesn’t recommend it. You want to meet in person as soon as you’ve established that you might have something in common—and that he’s not a bot or scammer.

Many men become suspicious of women who chat indefinitely. They have such a high rejection/ghosting rate that they don’t want to waste time on someone who never intends to meet them. That’s also a tactic scammers use.

So don’t wait weeks or even months to meet. Get it over with as soon as possible.

Help Men Meet You

The days of women sitting passively back and waiting for men to come to them is over.

Women need to take more of an active role, even if it means being the one to break the ice.

Most good men nowadays are hesitant to bother a woman. They’ve learned from #MeToo that not all women welcome a friendly hello. They need her to make it really clear she’s interested before they’ll make a move, and many women don’t know how to do that.

It’s time to learn.

And Eric can guide you through it.

What It’s Like Working With a Dating Coach

Eric offers coaching through all levels of dating. He offers dating profile evaluations, guidance on capturing effective photos and crafting compelling biographies, and “mock dates” to practice that all-important first meeting.

These practice dates, conducted virtually or in person, are great for the woman who knows things aren’t working but isn’t sure what.

If you’ve ever wished you could have an expert give you feedback on the messages you’re sending men, suggest the best way to respond to him, help you pick the perfect outfit, or tell you what you could be doing better, Coach Eric is the man.

And right now, he’s offering a special gift to those of you who watched this interview.

A FREE 30-minute consultation!

Just go to his website, DatingByEric.com, and fill in the contact form. Be sure to say Your Brilliance sent you!