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What is the Gap?
It’s the dark, yawning space between the rush of new romance and the reality of building a life together.
It’s the chasm between fun and forever. Between dopamine and devotion.
And if you can’t cross it, the relationship never makes it. [Read more…] about Watch Out For The “Gap” Between Fun and Forever
In my last post, I shared why I’m a fan of the Slow Burn.
There’s something delicious about drawing out the romantic tension over weeks and months. [Read more…] about What if He’s Not Making A Move… On Purpose?
It’s scary to consider the idea that love may not be the main emotion at play in your relationship.
You need to believe your partner loves you. Questioning that—even for a moment—can feel catastrophic. [Read more…] about Can You Love Each Other & Still Hate Each Other Sometimes?
Do you think it’s possible for a man to love you a lot and just never show it?
Do you think it’s possible for a man to be totally selfish and still love you?
Do you think it’s possible for a man to be incredibly hurtful and still love you? [Read more…] about Look For This Clue to How He Feels
I feel a bit cringe when I write anything about “How to Make a Man Love You More.”
Because there’s something important I’m leaving out.
You CAN’T make some men love you more. [Read more…] about His Love Capacity
I wish someone had taught me what I’m teaching you now.
Twenty years ago, I didn’t know how to fix a relationship or how to end it. I’d let things get so bad he’d break up with me.🤦♀️
Bad boyfriends broke me, but they also taught me the need to grow a backbone. [Read more…] about Difficult Relationships With Difficult Men Part III
When you’re in a difficult relationship, you just want him to change.
But he’s so stubborn. He refuses to change his hurtful behaviors or get any help.
And why should he? [Read more…] about Difficult Relationship With Difficult Men Part II
What do you do when all that great relationship advice doesn’t work with your particular partner?
He mocks you when you express your feelings. He refuses to try anything new. He maintains that you’re the problem, not him. [Read more…] about Difficult Relationships With Difficult Men: Part I
In the past few years, I’ve noticed something unsettling.
As bad as the gender wars were when I started my career, they’ve somehow gotten worse.
Social media is a battlefield—men complaining about women, women complaining about men. [Read more…] about The REAL Reason Men & Women Are At War
In 1991, Alison Armstrong got a phone call that stopped her in her tracks.
A friend called her out on the way she spoke to men.
Alison didn’t believe it at first. [Read more…] about Never Say A Bad Word About Men Again?
In the 20th Century:
You have an obligation to keep yourself attractive for him.
In the 21st Century:
You have an obligation to yourself to enjoy your body. [Read more…] about This Affects His Desire for You
In the 20th Century:
Be more attractive to men.
In the 21st Century:
Practice the hard skills of loving.
It seemed so obvious at the time: [Read more…] about Don’t Work on Being More Attractive – Do THIS
In the 20th Century:
Forgive & forget.
In the 21st Century:
Fix it.
Good people forgive and forget. [Read more…] about Should You Keep Forgiving Him?
In the 20th Century:
The best way to show him love is to do nice things for him.
In the 21st Century:
The best way to show him love is to understand him. [Read more…] about Be The Woman Who Truly “Gets” Him
In the 20th Century:
Men fall out of love because they stop finding their partner attractive.
In the 21st Century:
Men fall out of love because they don’t want to be a disappointment. [Read more…] about Surprising Reason Men Fall Out of Love
