In the 20th Century:
You’re in a bad relationship because you made a bad choice.
In the 21st Century:
You’re in a bad relationship because you’re working through your issues.
In the 20th century, blaming women for the situations they found themselves in was practically a spectator sport.
If a woman ended up in a bad marriage, it was her fault for marrying that guy.
She should have known better. Buyer beware!
This sentiment was easy to internalize.
For years, I blamed myself for my own bad relationships.
In my mind, it wasn’t his fault for being awful as much as it was my fault for getting myself into that situation.
But that was before we knew what we know now.
Today, we know that our conscious mind isn’t in control of our partner choices. Our subconscious is.
We pick partners who will hurt us in the exact same way we’ve been hurt before…
In the hope that THIS time we’ll find a way past the hurt to healing.
Our partners are an embodiment of what we believe about ourselves deep down.
Ask yourself:
- What does my choice of past partners say about the issues I struggle with?
- Can I work on those issues in another way?
P.S. Do you need to heal from your past choices? Discover the 3 ways your past could be wrecking your love life—and how to heal.
Let us know what you think!