Your brilliant life starts now
Mat Shaffer said something in our interview that I think is helpful:
Our relationships are a mirror “for where we are at in our own journey within ourselves.”
If you’re having beautiful, healthy relationships, that’s great news! [Read more…] about Why He Doesn’t Treat You Well
Here’s something I didn’t understand back in my twenties:
You attract who you are.
Not what you WANT, but who you ARE.
That’s a quote from Mat Shaffer’s interview with me, [Read more…] about When You Do Everything Right & Still Can’t Find Good Love
In the 20th Century:
You have an obligation to keep yourself attractive for him.
In the 21st Century:
You have an obligation to yourself to enjoy your body. [Read more…] about This Affects His Desire for You
In the 20th Century:
If a guy says he’s open to a relationship, he’s open to a relationship.
In the 21st Century:
His behavior will show you if he’s open to a relationship. [Read more…] about Is He a Dater or a Relater?
In the 20th Century:
Be more attractive to men.
In the 21st Century:
Practice the hard skills of loving.
It seemed so obvious at the time: [Read more…] about Don’t Work on Being More Attractive – Do THIS
In the 20th Century:
You deserve your own happy-ever-after.
In the 21st Century:
You have free will to make choices.
Back in the early days of my career, I used to reassure people: [Read more…] about You’ll End Up Married, Won’t You?
In the 20th Century:
Forgive & forget.
In the 21st Century:
Fix it.
Good people forgive and forget. [Read more…] about Should You Keep Forgiving Him?
In the 20th Century:
It’s your responsibility to be attractive.
In the 21st Century:
It’s your “responsibility” to be attractive. (Airquotes intended.) [Read more…] about What’s Wrong With You??
In the 20th Century:
Men are only attracted to women living their best life.
In the 21st Century:
Your best life may not leave you with room for anyone else.
I came of age in the 1990s, and all the women’s magazines I devoured told me the same thing: [Read more…] about Rethinking “Living Your Best Life”
In the 20th Century:
The best way to show him love is to do nice things for him.
In the 21st Century:
The best way to show him love is to understand him. [Read more…] about Be The Woman Who Truly “Gets” Him
In the 20th Century:
Men fall out of love because they stop finding their partner attractive.
In the 21st Century:
Men fall out of love because they don’t want to be a disappointment. [Read more…] about Surprising Reason Men Fall Out of Love
In the 20th Century:
If you do the right thing, everything will be all right.
In the 21st Century:
All you can do is make healthy choices for yourself and the relationship. [Read more…] about Older, Wiser, and Readier for Lasting Love
In the 20th Century:
What you do in bed is make it or break it.
In the 21st Century:
What you do when you hurt each other is make it or break it. [Read more…] about The REAL Relationship Litmus Test
In the 20th Century:
He wants a catch.
In the 21st Century:
He wants someone who makes him feel alive.
Yes, you could be slim and gorgeous and accomplished and fascinating… [Read more…] about The Experience He’s Seeking: Is It You?
In the 20th Century:
If you’re good enough, he’ll stay.
In the 21st Century:
If you create something good together, he’ll stay.
It feels so personal. [Read more…] about Is It Your Fault It Didn’t Work Out?
