No, Men Today Don’t Treat Women The Same

A sea change is here, and some of you are already feeling it.

The way men treat women today is not the way men treated women, say, 30 years ago.

There’s more open disrespect. Some men think it’s funny to use and belittle women—and social media amplifies it. Apps have made dating such a toxic experience that men and women alike are opting out.

Is it the end of peaceful relationship between the sexes?

I don’t think so, but it’s going to take sanctuary to get us out.

The Gender War At Home

The gender war is real, and it’s hitting a lot of us close to home.

Over the past year, I’ve talked to many women who just don’t know what to do about their relationships.

These smart, kind women use careful communication to share how they’re feeling and ask for what they need…

Only to find their words slamming into a wall. Their partners aren’t interested. They’ve never felt so alone.

Here’s what I tell them:

“You Didn’t Cause This”

The way men see their role in relationships is transforming, pushed by political winds and extreme online content.

For some men today, being a man means being in control of your home and your partner.

And what better way to show you’re in control than by shutting her down when she tries to talk about feelings or ask for help.

These men think it’s more important to “be a man” and shut down anything remotely feminine (like feelings or helping)…

Than it is to love and keep their partner.

Not All Men

Luckily, this isn’t ALL men. It isn’t even MOST men.

Plenty of good men see through it. We’re just not seeing them.

There are good men everywhere, regardless of what the apps and algorithms say. Men who know that “being a man” means devoting their lives to their family, whatever “family” means to them.

These guys don’t want a gender battle. They just want peace in their homes.

They’re tired of everything having to be a struggle. But they don’t know what to do.

So they’ve locked their emotions up tight, put on a stoic face to their families, and found other outlets to talk about how they feel.

I spent months listening to those men, and what they have to say breaks my heart.

There’s a lot they’re not telling us. And it’s stuff we need to hear.

What Men Want To Tell You

If you’re up for listening, then I have something for you.

I put everything I discovered into a book.

It’s called SANCTUARY SIGNALS, and it reveals what good men are saying about relationships: their simplest wish, summed up in just 4 words.

You’ve never heard men talk about relationships like this.

These guys are smart, they’re wise, they’re realistic.

And what they have to tell you might just turn your world upside down.

I think it’s the most important book I’ve ever written. We need to start telling a new story about men and women—and I believe Sanctuary should be part of it.

Find out what that means—and how you can create it—here.