How Do You Make Him Happy? The Short Answer

If you’re a woman, then you know the answer. You make a man happy by figuring out what he likes and giving it to him!

If he likes chicken wings and mashed potatoes, you make him chicken wings and mashed potatoes. If he follows college football, you don’t schedule anything when a game is on. If he likes you in tight jeans and a tank top, then you rock those skinny jeans.

What you’re doing is proving to him that you’re a perfect fit for his fantasy woman. You’re everything he’s always wanted.

But will that make him happy?

No!

Trying to MAKE someone happy is one of the least effective ways of making them happy.

And given how much of our lives we spend trying to make people happy, that can come as a bit of a shock!

So what should you be doing instead?

How can you bring more happiness into the world in the most efficient and effective way possible?

Simple:

Invest in YOUR happiness.

Your pleasure and joy is the quickest route to making a man happy—but it only works if you’re not faking it.

Here’s the science behind it.

#1. Mirror neurons

One of the most exciting discoveries in recent decades is the discovery of mirror neurons. These are brain cells that mirror the actions and emotions of people we’re observing.

For example, if you watch an actor on screen start to cry, chances are you’ll feel a little teary yourself. You’ll pick up that emotion.

Well, that’s your mirror neurons in action!

So if you want someone to feel something, your best bet is to express that feeling yourself. Smile and laugh. Do a little victory dance! Just being happy isn’t enough; you’ve got to show it in order to activate his mirror neurons.

#2. Happy Wife = Happy Life

You’ve heard that saying, “Happy wife, happy life.” It turns out there’s sound science behind it.

A study found that people who feel happy with their life also tend to feel more intensely in love with their partners.^[1]

So if you’re not happy with your job or your life in general, then you may not feel as in love with him as you would otherwise.

Another study looked at couples who’d been married for about 40 years. It found that the happier the wife was with the marriage, the happier the husband—even if he wasn’t satisfied with the marriage.^[2]

#3. He wants to please YOU

The problem with being the woman he wants is that you don’t get to be yourself. He doesn’t get to know your needs and desires. You’re withholding part of yourself from him.

A man won’t commit to a relationship unless he believes he can make you happy. That’s non-negotiable.

So if he doesn’t get the chance to make you happy—because you’re focusing on HIM—then he’s not going to feel confident about having a future with you.

Tell him how to make you happy. Do what you need to do to have a life you love, even if it’s not convenient for him. Expect him to make accommodations for you. He’ll feel happier knowing he’s made you happy than if you’d bent over backwards trying to make him happy yourself.

[1] https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/1948550611417015?rss=1
[2] https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4158846/