Is It Your Fault It Didn’t Work Out?

In the 20th Century:
If you’re good enough, he’ll stay.

In the 21st Century:
If you create something good together, he’ll stay.

It feels so personal.

When a relationship falls apart or a man ghosts you, it feels like you did it.

You did something wrong. You should have done something different. You should have fixed it.

It feels like this always happens. You always mess it up.

What’s the point of even trying? It’s just going to end in tears.

If you’ve ever felt you had to be “better” in order to get a better relationship…

Thinner, sexier, more fluent in man-speak, more feminine, more relaxed, more perfect…

Then this message is for you.

It’s not about how good you are.

It’s about what you create together.

Two perfect people can make a mess of things. (Case in point: most celebrity relationships.)

Two quirky neurotic people can make something magnificent that lasts.

The way your relationships turn out is not a judgment on you.

Some chemicals explode when mixed; others create a beautiful chemical reaction.

Questions to consider:

• Do I think a relationship will be great because of how great he is?
• Do I ignore how badly a relationship is going because I want him so much?
• Have I ever had an unexpectedly great relationship with someone I didn’t think I’d like?

P.S. Rejection doesn’t have to make you despair. This powerful minicourse provides a compassionate roadmap for transforming pain into wisdom. You’ll learn about first degree, second degree, and third degree rejection. By the end, you’ll feel renewed confidence in your ability to handle anything love throws at you.