Not every man aspires to be an alpha male.
Some men like to see themselves as a “sigma male.”
Whereas an alpha male sees himself as leader of the pack, sigma males are lone wolves. [Read more…] about Should You Date A Sigma Male?
How to Find the One
Dating Advice
Never Date An Alpha Male
A lot of men genuinely believe that women are only attracted to alpha males.
They believe—and this is going to gross you out—that women are “programmed” to constantly keep an eye out for higher status “males” [Read more…] about Never Date An Alpha Male
Let Go of Past Pain
What’s the most awful, horrific thing that’s happened to you in relationships?
For me, it was experiencing the sheer hatred of a man who, once he no longer had me, desired to destroy me.
It’s happened to me more than once over my life. It always catches me off guard. [Read more…] about Let Go of Past Pain
Why He Doesn’t Treat You Well
Mat Shaffer said something in our interview that I think is helpful:
Our relationships are a mirror “for where we are at in our own journey within ourselves.”
If you’re having beautiful, healthy relationships, that’s great news! [Read more…] about Why He Doesn’t Treat You Well
When You Do Everything Right & Still Can’t Find Good Love
Here’s something I didn’t understand back in my twenties:
You attract who you are.
Not what you WANT, but who you ARE.
That’s a quote from Mat Shaffer’s interview with me, [Read more…] about When You Do Everything Right & Still Can’t Find Good Love
Is He a Dater or a Relater?
In the 20th Century:
If a guy says he’s open to a relationship, he’s open to a relationship.
In the 21st Century:
His behavior will show you if he’s open to a relationship. [Read more…] about Is He a Dater or a Relater?
You’ll End Up Married, Won’t You?
In the 20th Century:
You deserve your own happy-ever-after.
In the 21st Century:
You have free will to make choices.
Back in the early days of my career, I used to reassure people: [Read more…] about You’ll End Up Married, Won’t You?
What’s Wrong With You??
In the 20th Century:
It’s your responsibility to be attractive.
In the 21st Century:
It’s your “responsibility” to be attractive. (Airquotes intended.) [Read more…] about What’s Wrong With You??
Rethinking “Living Your Best Life”
In the 20th Century:
Men are only attracted to women living their best life.
In the 21st Century:
Your best life may not leave you with room for anyone else.
I came of age in the 1990s, and all the women’s magazines I devoured told me the same thing: [Read more…] about Rethinking “Living Your Best Life”
The Experience He’s Seeking: Is It You?
In the 20th Century:
He wants a catch.
In the 21st Century:
He wants someone who makes him feel alive.
Yes, you could be slim and gorgeous and accomplished and fascinating… [Read more…] about The Experience He’s Seeking: Is It You?
The Best Friend Test
In the 20th Century:
You have a spouse and a best friend.
In the 21st Century:
Your spouse is your best friend.
My grandmother never would have called her husband her best friend. [Read more…] about The Best Friend Test
You Never Have To Be Lonely Again
In the 20th Century:
When we’re lonely and yearn for companionship, we long for love.
In the 21st Century:
When we’re lonely and yearn for companionship, we unlock our phone. [Read more…] about You Never Have To Be Lonely Again
Your New Love Coach?
In the 20th Century:
You get love advice from experts, friends, family, and the media.
In the 21st Century:
You also get love advice from AI.
Have you asked ChatGPT for love advice? [Read more…] about Your New Love Coach?
You Should Ask Him Lots of Questions, Right?
In the 20th Century:
Interrogate.
In the 21st Century:
Invite.
If you want to get to know someone, what’s the first thing you do? [Read more…] about You Should Ask Him Lots of Questions, Right?
Don’t Impress Him, PLEASE
In the 20th Century:
Impress.
In the 21st Century:
Connect.
No wonder we get so nervous about meeting new people. [Read more…] about Don’t Impress Him, PLEASE
