Why do guys ghost?
The short answer is smartphones.
Smartphones are changing culture. We treat people differently when we’re interacting digitally. We type things we’d never say face-to-face. We forget there’s a real human being behind there.
Because we’re so used to looking at our phones, we’ve begun to lose our taste for the messiness of real human interaction. We flirt by text. We break up by text. We don’t ever have to deal with the discomfort of watching a person break down in front of us.
Relationships take a hit when you spend more time texting than talking. You’re just another source of dopamine-boosting notifications on his phone. You’re not really REAL. He doesn’t feel responsible for your emotions.
Which makes it super-easy for him to put you out of his mind. He just stops texting you. If you’re not popping up on his phone, you don’t exist.
Culture isn’t going to change. But you can “ghost-proof” your relationships by rethinking your boundaries around how much you text vs. see each other in person. This can help.