In the 20th Century:
A relationship tests your ability to build a life together.
In the 21st Century:
A relationship tests your ability to heal one another.
My parents got married in order to build a life together. That was their job.
My father was responsible for providing.
My mother was responsible for keeping the home and raising children.
They fulfilled both jobs admirably.
So everyone was supposed to be happy.
Back in the 20th century, that expectation made sense.
If you had a man who provided for you, treated you well, and didn’t drink or cheat, you’d won.
If that wasn’t enough to make you happy, what more did you want? The moon?
The generations growing up now see things differently.
They no longer need a spouse for homemaking or financial support. They’re perfectly capable on their own.
What they DO need is a safe place for their heart to rest.
Having a romantic partner provides a secure base and a safe haven.
Your person is your respite from the world. Your person is your cheerleader who never loses faith in you.
We love because love is an emotional journey.
It’s not about the ring and the marriage license and the joint taxes and the mortgage.
It’s about growing and learning and hurting and healing.
Your partner is going to take you somewhere.
Not to a bigger house or a better lifestyle, but to a version of yourself you’ve never met before.
Question to consider:
- Where is my partner taking me?
Let us know what you think!