Prove Your Love by Putting Him First?

In the 20th Century:
Love is putting others first.

In the 21st Century:
Love is inclusive. (It includes you.)

I used to think that being loving meant becoming a selfless person who always put others first.

Except I noticed something strange…

The folks I knew who always put others first had something of a “dark side.”

They seemed so serene in public, but the more you got to know them behind closed doors…

The more you noticed little comments and reactions that didn’t align with the person you thought them to be.

Was that some resentment?

Maybe even some anger?

And quite rightly so.

If you put others first all the time, you expect other people to put you first on occasion.

Still waiting!

What I learned from the fabulous Brené Brown is that love requires boundaries.

The most loving people on Earth only give up to a certain point.

Any more, and they put themselves at risk of becoming resentful. That’s not who they want to be.

Questions to consider:

• Do I get frustrated when other people ask too much of me?
• Is it their asking that bothers me, or the pressure I feel to say yes?
• Do I wish others would do more for me?
• If I did more for myself, would that take the pressure off other people?

P.S. Saying no takes practice. It takes time to learn to show yourself the love you so generously show others. That’s what my 4-week Pleasure Principle program provides.