Men Are All The Same

In the 20th Century:
All men are the same.

In the 21st Century:
Every man is different.

Pop psychology deals in stereotypes.

If men are from Mars and women are from Venus, then you don’t need to get to know your guy better. You already know what he wants and needs, because you’ve read a book or listened to a podcast.

In almost every other area of life, we know stereotyping is harmful.

We know that we wouldn’t want to be denied work just because a manager thinks a woman couldn’t do the job.

But we barely notice the stereotyping in dating. It’s too pervasive.

One of the more toxic stereotypes is the view that attraction works the same for all men.

Men are “biologically programmed” to desire youth, beauty, and curves.

That sounds true to us. It sounds like common sense.

But if a man told you, “You’re a woman. You’re biologically programmed to find power, wealth, and status attractive,” you’d laugh in his face!

You have your own unique taste in men. No one is going to tell you what you’re supposed to find attractive!

If that’s the case for you, why can’t it be the case for him?

Why is it hard for us to believe that every man is different and finds different things attractive?

Questions to consider:

• Are you making assumptions about men that don’t apply to him?
• Have you ever asked him what he thinks makes someone attractive?

P.S. What assumptions are you making about your own attractiveness? Test your body image and discover what it takes to FINALLY feel happy with your looks in this minicourse.