In the 20th Century:
Don’t ask too much of him.
In the 21st Century:
You don’t get if you don’t ask.
Men are busy – don’t bother them.”
Men don’t like demanding women – don’t ask too much of them.”
Never depend on a man – be self-sufficient.”
Keep your expectations low – you’ll be pleasantly surprised.”
That’s just common sense, isn’t it?
The more you expect of a man…
The more you depend on him…
The more you’re setting yourself up for disaster.
So keep your expectations in check and take care of your needs yourself.
It’s only when you go to a man wanting nothing that he’ll give you everything.
I believed that to my very core.
What I didn’t realize – because I was young and inexperienced – was that my beliefs were creating my reality.
The men I dated liked the fact that I didn’t ask anything from them. They took that as permission to offer nothing in return.
It is absolutely true that some men prefer independent women who ask nothing of them.
It is ALSO absolutely true that some men love nothing more than taking care of the people they love.
Which kind of man did I want in my life?
Clearly, I wanted the man who hated the idea of having to waste time thinking about someone else!
When you ask for nothing, you wall yourself off.
You don’t give him a chance to be the shoulder you lean on.
You squash his giving instinct.
You train him to think of you as someone without any needs.
Questions to consider:
- Do you tend to attract givers or takers?
- Do you have any idea why that might be so?
- Does receiving from a man make you uncomfortable?
- How does it feel to ask for your needs to be met by a man?
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