We all know women who wear the proverbial pants in their relationships.
Isn’t it interesting how THEIR husbands are more devoted than most?
What are these women doing that others aren’t?
How do they FIND these guys in the first place—men who live to please them?
The truth is…
These type of men are ALL around us.
Yet we dismiss them as “nice guys” or overlook them because we’ve been taught that drama makes a relationship stronger.
These lies are hurting us all.
Men NEED women to take the lead.
Men WANT women to set high standards for relationships and hold them accountable for meeting those standards.
You could be in a relationship right now where your partner is YEARNING for you to wake up and take the lead.
How would you even know?
Look for these signs.
13 Signs Your Partner (Secretly) Wants YOU to Lead
- He enjoys offering you foreplay and tells you that you don’t have to return the favor.
- Before he makes a decision, he always asks for your input.
- He rarely says no to your requests.
- He has mentioned that he believes women are smarter than men.
- He says he is a feminist.
- He doesn’t want you to do housework, pay bills or do anything exhausting.
- He will work overtime to get you the things you ask for.
- If you have an argument, he is the first to give in.
- His pet names for you are Goddess or Queen.
- He is happiest when you give him specific instructions or tasks, so that he can complete them just the way you like it.
- When you have a goal, he supports your goal as though it is his own.
- He enjoys giving you foot massages.
- He has casually mentioned that he would do anything for you.
Do you recognize your partner at all?
If you do, you may have the right ingredients to form a Loving Female-Led Relationship.
No, it’s nothing kinky or taboo.
A Loving Female-Led Relationship is simply a relationship where the woman’s happiness is the priority in the relationship…
And the man willingly agrees to support her happiness in any way that he can.
She is the expressed leader in the relationship, and this delights him, because he is proud to stand beside a strong and powerful woman.
Does this idea intrigue you?
Excite you?
Then it’s time to have fun by taking the lead more often.
Make up your mind and give him directives for what you want done, without feeling nervous about it.
If he reacts positively and follows your directions, increase your confidence and be bold enough to ask for what you REALLY want from your relationship.
If you’d like more structure, I’ve outlined the nuts and bolts of a Loving Female-Led Relationship in an easy-to-use couples workbook.
This workbook will guide you through sharing your desires, learning more about his needs, and structuring a relationship that truly nourishes his (secret) desire to support you.
Maybe he’d love to be led by you, but you’re not sure HOW to lead. You’ve never done it in a relationship before.
What would you even ask for? What do you want him to do?
To help you become a more confident leader in your relationship, I’ve developed a Women’s Leadership Coaching Program. It’s a 4-week program that offers women the support they need to become intentional leaders in their homes and in society.
It’s YOUR time to shine.
Step up and take the lead. Watch him as he loves you even more for doing it.
This is the day that you decide that you will become the Goddess in his life.
This is the day you decide that you will become one of those women that OTHER women admire.
Want to learn more?
Then check out Te-Erika’s interview with us on the topic of loving female-led relationships.
I have had submissive desires as long as I can remember. They were initially fetishes. Over time however, I now know that all I want is to be in an FLR.. zero demands or expectations from me other than Tisha taking intentional and overt control of our relationship. She is strong and independent and she is controlling naturally.. she more often than not decides most things and tells me what she wants.. I ask her if I can go or do and she says yes or no.. she is in no way subject to this from me and simply tells me she’s doing this of that..if I ask to go, say, to the store with her, she often says “no, you can stay home.” I have acxepacc ALL of the above, but when I do hesitate or complain, she will often back off.. this is disappointing.. I need and desire to be controlled.. for it to be intentional. For her to not stop.i also gave all financial control to her.. I give her my pay and she keeps hers. I have no access to her bank account. This lack of power makes me desire her more and makes me feel so vulnerable.. I want to feel that in all things and I want her to make me know my place in no uncertain terms.. I love what control she has and am filled with adoration and an unending need to please her. I want to feel totally subject to her whims. I want her to be empowered and liberated.. and to use this to succeed and make even more in need of her and be so desperate for her that she is the only focus of my life.. I love that she decides what I do, and lomits it and at the same time does as she pleases.. I love that I answer for everything to her and she does not only not answer to me, but that she simply tells me she is going out of she buys what she wants.. it is so fantastic to have to ask her for money and then accept her decist.. I feel powerless, vulnerable.. I just wish it would be 100% intentional. I line that she also withholds sex.. but if would be even better if she only denied me and got satisfied herself in whatever manner she wanted.. even better if she enjoyed denying me and found ways to keep my sexual frustration as high as possible for longer and longer periods.. it would fuel my need and desire for her more.. and if she liked seeing me in this condition and told me so, it would make me all the more frustrated.. in short, I want to serve her, make her life easy, please her and be left in a constant and ever increasung state of physical frustration and metally and emotionally desperate and vulnerable. Tisha on the contrary will be empowered, liberated, confident, secure and satisfied in every way. I desire this and though it would sometimes be difficult, I want to feel this way more than I want anything else. Please, please help me. I have always avoided being direct about this.
I wish that I could lose control of this now, with you. I wish that there was a way that you could tell her what I am. How much I desire to fully submit to her, that I want her to enjoy this, take advantage of it and me.. but I have never been able to tell this whole thing.. it maybe because I’m submissive I’m also no confrontational.. please, please help me to get this to her. I will never cheat, I will only grow closer to her as she becomes more and more demanding, controlling and as she at the same time learns denying me sexually only aids all this, and she simply keeps me more frustrated for ever longer periods of time and realizes (I hope, even tho it will be almost unbearable) that maybe there is no reason to ever give me release and every reason not to. This power dynamic is something I can’t stop thinking about… I only hope it happens and it becomes my life
I think he needs professional advice
Handing over all the responsibilities and all the decision-making over to one partner isn’t what a loving female-led relationship is about. It’s about co-creating a relationship where each partner plays to his/her strengths. It requires communication, negotiating roles, and making expectations clear.
Not communicating about what you want from the relationship – while feeling frustrated you’re not getting it – isn’t working for you. So it’s time for you to start doing the work. Show your partner Te-Erika’s interview. Order her book for men. Look into the personalized coaching she offers. Take responsibility for your part in creating the relationship you desire.