You may think you’re ordinary … but did you know you have a superpower?
We all do. We just write it off. We think it’s nothing special.
Life coach Suzette Vearnon excels in helping strong, successful women find the music that brings ease and joy to their lives.
If you’ve ever wondered why you’re really here and what you really want, this YBTV interview is for you.
What You’ll Learn
Suzette Vearnon discovered her superpower at a young age.
It was music.
She thought her talent was nothing special. She thought everyone could do it.
It wasn’t until much later that she realized that music stood for much more than the ability to carry a tune.
Music is the vision. It’s the dream. It’s your heart-song.”
When you don’t listen to your music, you end up hopping on the hamster wheel of performance. You work furiously just to stay afloat. It’s all about what you can do rather than who you are.
Many high-performing women end up in that trap. They’re so good at performing and being what everyone else wants that they lose sight of who they really are and what they really want.
When we don’t know who we really are … then we’re working that math. We’re going hard. We’re performing. But we’re performing for somebody else. Eventually that’s going to catch up with us … and where it really catches up with us is in our relationships.”
A great life happens when the “math” serves the music. When what you do serves your vision of who you are.
When you have music—the visioning—and math—the processing—working in collaboration, you have great love. You have a great life.”
If only it were that easy.
“We are in a culture where performance is king,” Suzette explains. “We’ve been rated and judged by our ability to perform.”
And we take that attitude into relationships.
“When we try to perform,” Suzette says, “we attract men who are drawn to performance, who want their egos stroked, who want you to be their trophy, who want you to cook and clean, who will judge you by your performance. But that’s an awful way to live.”
When you have to keep proving yourself worthy of your man’s love, then he’s not loving the real you. He’s loving the performance you’re putting on for him.
If you want true intimacy, you’ve got to stop performing and simply be.
Be who you really are?
But who are you, without the performance and trying to be everything to everybody?
‘Who are you?’ and ‘What do you want?’ Those two questions are very difficult for high-performing women.”
Yet those questions will lead you to your superpower.
Your superpower isn’t your ability to meet everyone’s needs or make everyone happy. It’s something that makes your heart sing.
“Our superpower is like our gift,” Suzette explains. “It comes so easy to us that we minimize it. Other people are like, ‘Wow, you can do that!’ Or they seek you out for it. But we think, ‘Oh, that’s not anything, because I didn’t have to work for it.'”
You don’t need anyone else to validate you or recognize you as having a talent. Your superpower isn’t bestowed on you by some outside source. Nor is it a power that makes you better than others.
Rather, it’s a power that comes from within you. It lights you up. Regardless of what anyone else thinks, regardless of whether you use it or not, you know it to be true.
Finding your superpower helps you see that no one else can make you powerful. No one has to give you permission to be strong. No one has to tell you that you are enough.
The answers are already there, inside you.
If you can’t hear them, get still.
When you’re still, you can hear. You can wake up that power.”
It’s hard to put aside the work and the all the things you have to do and the ticking clock and the people who need you. But that’s what you have to do if you want to get in touch with your truth and your power. Not to mention “out of that relaxed steadiness is where most of your brilliant ideas come from.”
You don’t have to meditate. You can repeat mantras, practice yoga, go on a mindfulness retreat, whatever works for you.
But take the time to stop performing and just be.
In that stillness, you’ll hear your music.
In that stillness, you’ll know who you are.
In that stillness, you’ll feel your strength.
Jump to Topics of Interest
02:58 How Suzette discovered her superpower
05:18 What MusicMath means
06:24 The consequences of following the math instead of the music
07:39 How being so performance-oriented impacts intimate relationships
10:03 Am I enough?
11:09 Why we minimize our gifts
12:02 Mr. Right will appreciate who you truly are
14:06 Being in-powered verses empowered
15:55 Get still
19:22 The Enough Factor
20:50 Do you know why you’re enough?
About Suzette Vearnon
Suzette is a relationship solutionist, coach, and award-winning writer who’s passionate about INNER-powerment. With her inspired MusicMath approach to relating, she helps high performing dream-driven women discover their super power to put GREAT back into love and life. Find out how you can work with Suzette.