Is He a Dater or a Relater?

In the 20th Century:
If a guy says he’s open to a relationship, he’s open to a relationship.

In the 21st Century:
His behavior will show you if he’s open to a relationship.

Guys have learned.

If they say they’re “open to a relationship,” they get a lot more attention than if they say they just want something casual.

So most guys will tell you they’re open to a relationship, even if they end up leading you on.

Here’s the truth:

A guy is either a Dater or a Relater.

He’s either looking for someone to have fun with (because life is always more fun with a companion)…

Or he’s looking to build a life with someone.

Entertainment or partnership: he’s usually just interested in one.

Dating apps are full of guys with great ideas on fun things you can do together.

Daters use the promise of fun to entice you into meeting up.

If you do end up having tons of fun with him, you might naturally wonder what it would be like if you got into a relationship. Would it be this fun all the time?

No, it would not.

Relationships are about building a life together.

Relationships are about sharing the hard things (and a lot of boring things, too).

If he’s with you because it’s fun, he’s going to bow out once it gets hard.

Relaters don’t think that way.

Relaters automatically take on your life with all its complications.

Your family, friends, preferences, and problems matter to a Relater.

That’s what being in a relationship is all about, isn’t it? Joining lives.

Question to consider:

• If I go by his behavior instead of what he says, is my guy more interested in having fun or building a life together?

P.S. Is he infatuated with you, or does he really love you? Find out in this in-depth minicourse. You’ll also learn the 4 reasons he won’t tell you how he feels, how long it takes the average guy to reveal his feelings, and how to know whether he’s even capable of love.