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When I first came on the scene 20 years ago, men were already teaching each other a clever way to attract women:
Just use psychology to tell her things about herself.
Surprise her with these pseudo “deep insights” that amaze her with their accuracy, and she’ll feel an incredible connection to this guy who seems to see right into her soul. [Read more…] about Does He Know You Better Than You Know Yourself?
I caught up with the mother of one of my high school classmates the other day.
She told me that my friend was doing great. Still single! Had her own business. Did her own thing. Was fed up with men after a slew of bad dates. [Read more…] about Before You Offer Him A Shoulder To Cry On…
Tough Truth:
Hiding how you look won’t make him fall in love with you.
Lead with your beautiful body—let it filter out the wrong men.
Women who aren’t body confident often make one terrible mistake: [Read more…] about The Body Test
Tough truth:
Impressing him won’t make him love you.
Having fun together is what makes him want to see more of you.
The “catch” model of dating is outdated. [Read more…] about Stop Impressing Men
Tough truth:
We blame men for breaking our hearts.
But sometimes we break our own hearts.
We mistake the high for love.
You know the high I mean: [Read more…] about Don’t Mistake The High for Love
When a new relationship begins, there are two ways it can go.
The first is the fast path.
You meet someone. There’s instant chemistry. You fall into bed, and the sparks determine whether you keep seeing each other. [Read more…] about Fast Spark or Slow Burn? Here’s What Works
I’m not courting controversy, but I really believe this:
Much of the dating and relationship advice out there is actually dangerous.
That’s a strong word, but it’s the right one.
It’s designed to make you appeal to the type of men most likely to take advantage of you. [Read more…] about Watch Out For Dangerous Love Advice
Have you ever lost faith in love?
Have you ever had your heart broken…
Met someone who turned out not to be the man you thought he was…
Looked in the mirror and wondered why he’d ever choose you?
[Read more…] about Heal Your Heart & Find BETTER Love – Dating Coach Mat Shaffer
Not every man aspires to be an alpha male.
Some men like to see themselves as a “sigma male.”
Whereas an alpha male sees himself as leader of the pack, sigma males are lone wolves. [Read more…] about Should You Date A Sigma Male?
A lot of men genuinely believe that women are only attracted to alpha males.
They believe—and this is going to gross you out—that women are “programmed” to constantly keep an eye out for higher status “males” [Read more…] about Never Date An Alpha Male
What’s the most awful, horrific thing that’s happened to you in relationships?
For me, it was experiencing the sheer hatred of a man who, once he no longer had me, desired to destroy me.
It’s happened to me more than once over my life. It always catches me off guard. [Read more…] about Let Go of Past Pain
There’s something else Mat Shaffer says in our interview that I think is helpful:
Our relationships are a mirror “for where we are at in our own journey within ourselves.”
If you’re having beautiful, healthy relationships, that’s great news! [Read more…] about Why He Doesn’t Treat You Well
Here’s something I didn’t understand back in my twenties:
You attract who you are.
Not what you WANT, but who you ARE.
That’s a quote from Mat Shaffer’s interview with me, [Read more…] about When You Do Everything Right & Still Can’t Find Good Love
In the 20th Century:
If a guy says he’s open to a relationship, he’s open to a relationship.
In the 21st Century:
His behavior will show you if he’s open to a relationship. [Read more…] about Is He a Dater or a Relater?
In the 20th Century:
You deserve your own happy-ever-after.
In the 21st Century:
You have free will to make choices.
Back in the early days of my career, I used to reassure people: [Read more…] about You’ll End Up Married, Won’t You?
