How to Find the One

Dating Advice

How to Stay Smart (And Sane) When Texts Lie

As of 2025, you can no longer be sure he isn’t writing his texts without the help of AI. What does that mean for you?

It means you’ve got to adapt. Here are 3 good places to start. [Read more…] about How to Stay Smart (And Sane) When Texts Lie

Why You Might Never Trust a Love Text Again

A while back, a friend started texting me back differently.

Her replies to my texts didn’t sound like her. They were short and chipper—sometimes with emojis. She didn’t use emojis. What was going on? [Read more…] about Why You Might Never Trust a Love Text Again

Dating Red Flags & Green Lights with Coach Eric

Are you confident you could spot the difference between a man who’s trying to play you… and a man who’s serious about finding a relationship?

If you’ve spent any time on dating apps, you know that it isn’t easy! Too many men say what they think you want to hear. [Read more…] about Dating Red Flags & Green Lights with Coach Eric

Does He Know You Better Than You Know Yourself?

When I first came on the scene 20 years ago, men were already teaching each other a clever way to attract women:

Just use psychology to tell her things about herself.

Surprise her with these pseudo “deep insights” that amaze her with their accuracy [Read more…] about Does He Know You Better Than You Know Yourself?

Before You Offer Him A Shoulder To Cry On…

I caught up with the mother of one of my high school classmates the other day.

She told me that my friend was doing great. Still single! Had her own business. Did her own thing. Was fed up with men after a slew of bad dates. [Read more…] about Before You Offer Him A Shoulder To Cry On…

The Body Test

Tough Truth:
Hiding how you look won’t make him fall in love with you.
Lead with your beautiful body—let it filter out the wrong men.

Women who aren’t body confident often make one terrible mistake: [Read more…] about The Body Test

Stop Impressing Men

Tough truth:
Impressing him won’t make him love you.
Having fun together is what makes him want to see more of you.

The “catch” model of dating is outdated. [Read more…] about Stop Impressing Men

Don’t Mistake The High for Love

Tough truth:
We blame men for breaking our hearts.
But sometimes we break our own hearts.
We mistake the high for love.

You know the high I mean: [Read more…] about Don’t Mistake The High for Love

Fast Spark or Slow Burn? Here’s What Works

When a new relationship begins, there are two ways it can go.

The first is the fast path.

You meet someone. There’s instant chemistry. You fall into bed, and the sparks determine whether you keep seeing each other. [Read more…] about Fast Spark or Slow Burn? Here’s What Works

Watch Out For Dangerous Love Advice

I’m not courting controversy, but I really believe this:

Much of the dating and relationship advice out there is actually dangerous.

That’s a strong word, but it’s the right one.

It’s designed to make you appeal to the type of men most likely to take advantage of you. [Read more…] about Watch Out For Dangerous Love Advice

Heal Your Heart & Find BETTER Love – Dating Coach Mat Shaffer

Have you ever lost faith in love?

Have you ever had your heart broken…

Met someone who turned out not to be the man you thought he was…

Looked in the mirror and wondered why he’d ever choose you?

Should You Date A Sigma Male?

Not every man aspires to be an alpha male.

Some men like to see themselves as a “sigma male.”

Whereas an alpha male sees himself as leader of the pack, sigma males are lone wolves. [Read more…] about Should You Date A Sigma Male?

Never Date An Alpha Male

A lot of men genuinely believe that women are only attracted to alpha males.

They believe—and this is going to gross you out—that women are “programmed” to constantly keep an eye out for higher status “males” [Read more…] about Never Date An Alpha Male